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Well put! There is an assertion that I've seen made quite frequently on this board and others: "Swingers are more open-minded" - and to be honest, every time I do, it never fails to make me chuckle. I would submit that a more accurate statement would be: "Swingers are more open-minded about sex." (And even that is an easily challenged statement!) There are Swingers who, on social issues, are Liberals - There are Swingers who are Conservatives - There are Swingers who are Centerists (If you really want to see excellent examples of all-around rampant close-mindedness, read the Politics Forum over the last 6 months on SLS - ) There are Swingers who make decisions on interest in playing with others based on sexual orientation There are Swingers who make decisions on interest in playing with others based on status (single, married, etc) There are Swingers who make decisions on interest in playing with others based on race There are Swingers who make decisions on interest in playing with others based on physical appearance There are Swingers who make decisions on interest in playing with others based on age There are Swingers who make decisions on interest in playing with others based on height/weight proportions There are Swingers who make decisions on interest in playing with others based on perceived financial status There are Swingers who make decisions on interest in playing with others based on dick or breast size There are Swingers who make decisions on interest in playing with others based on who they are perceived to have played with There are Swingers who make decisions on interest in playing with others based on how they play (soft swap, full swap, etc) There are Swingers who make decisions on interest in playing with others based on shaved or unshaved genitals There are Swingers who make decisions on interest in playing with others based on whether or not they have tattoos or piercings All of the above are issues that are hotly debated, pro and con, on this and every other site that has a forum or message board, and yes, I know... all of these things normally hang out in the category of preference - but how many times do we see those on the losing end of said decisions accuse the decider of not being 'open-minded'? Those of us in this Lifestyle are simply a sub-set of society in general. The only thing that we do differently is have sex with other people in a manner that is not consistent with the accepted societal norm...and we're not singularly unique in that. The idea that just because you swing you will, by default, be 'open-minded' on everything flies in the face of fact...and sets a person who unreasonably expects Lifestylers to be so up for a big shock!