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I think the silliness comes in when people are asked "how they feel about" some characteristic of a person's appearance or identity, rather than how they feel about someone's preferences. I think it's because many aspects of our appearance and identity are difficult or impossible to change, so there is not that much basis for discussion. A long line of people expressing opinions about who someone is, or what they look like, without the give and take that goes with talking about preferences, sometimes does seem less stimulating. Asking how people feel about bald men is different than asking how they feel about men who don't want to give oral sex. Asking how people feel about BBW's is different than asking how people feel about swinging with single women. Asking how I feel about black men is a little silly... either I am okay with it, or I'm not, or it's on a case by case basis. I'm in the "I like black skin" camp. It's got a yummy texture and I dig the visual contrast. But what can you say back after I say that? That's pretty much the end of the discussion. Asking how I feel about a guy who is into BDSM, provides more discussion possibilities. In summary, it's much less interesting, and possibly silly, to me to read several pages of responses about how people feel about who someone is as opposed to how they feel about what they like or don't like, or what they will do or not do.