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The jealousy bug might bite you, it might not, if it does just talk about it and dont ignore it. Talk about it to see what exactly it was that bothered you. And work it out from there. I was very surprised our first time, while I didnt think I would have a jealousy issue I wasnt sure if that would change when the time came for our first pay date. However, I felt no pangs of jealousy and still have not to this day. I know our relationship is solid and he will always come home with me

I'm cranky today, so please take this with a grain of salt... but only a little one. If I were a single female, your profile would basically scare me and make me wonder about my potential safety. If I were hitched (which I am) your total disregard for the existence of my SO would put me off completely. Let me ask you: would your female half respond to a profile like this and be willing to do what you are asking someone else to do? Would your male half be willing to sit out like you want your potential playmate's male half to sit out? The Golden Rule applies here as everywhere else: Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Have you considered finding another couple who wants the same arrangement, and playing at least somewhat "fairly" with them? Sorry if this seems hostile, but we see so many profiles where the couple obviously doesn't realize they are among hundreds or thousands looking for the same thing, and just expect someone else to do something they wouldn't themselves be willing to do. Either that, or they think they are just that hot. Personally, I think you should try to pick up a woman in a bar. You'd have a better chance at getting what you seek. Seriously. (Humph) (cranky emoticon)

Maybe in some places, but not generally accepted... Yes it is. Period. Ok I'll just say... WTF??? Swinging is about swapping. If you don't swap at all, you aren't a swinger. That's what the word means, for crying out loud. Think of it this way - you can dress, talk, and behave like a German - that doesn't make you a German. By the same token, you can go to a club, dance, dress in clubwear, flirt, maybe even flash a bit of titty - but that doesn't make you a swinger.

I have to ask, have you ever seen anyone let someone down more definitively? I never have. We have been actively swinging for 6 or 7 years and in all instances that I have been involved in or have witnessed, it was done just the way the OP described what happened with them. Frankly, when we are busy trying to set something up with someone, the last thing on my mind is to go to someone we had been previously visiting with, but had made no commitment to, and tell them we aren't interested in hooking up with them that night. In fact, to do that would seem extremely awkward to me, as it demands I first make the assumption that their was some implied commitment with them to begin with. On the contrary, I don't think this couple was being immature, unless the OP left something out. While it sometimes sucks to be the one passed up on, this is the way it is normally done. As I say, unless the OP left out a point when one couple or the other asked to hook up for play that day, I don't see that their is any better way the other couple could have handled it, and their is surely no indication that they were some how obligated to handle it any differently than they did.