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Is the writer talking about playing alone or just being alone with someone? It takes a great deal of trust to be a successful swinger. There's nothing wrong with insisting on same-room play, but if we saw a couple at a party that insisted that they never be out of each other's sight under any circumstances, we would think that couple had issues regarding trust. If your partner finds himself/herself alone with someone else, either by accident or design, you need to be confident that your partner will not violate any rules that the two of you have established for playing with others.

As one in an open marriage, I find it somewhat a bullshit statement for swinging. While some swingers may play alone, I feel playing together is the default, not the exception, in swing-land. I think there's an entirely different mentality involved with being able to go off and play alone versus swinging together. Some swingers may be able to do both successfully, but personally, I'm not very fond of that statement as I am sure there are plenty on this board who might find it difficult to let their SO go off on their own (be it another room or completely separate), but who really thrive in a traditional swing environment. Obviously others' mileage may vary. If the statement was "If you can't handle seeing your partner enjoying sex with another, then swinging isn't for you", I'd be more inclined to agree. Just my .01.

I was wondering about some of the wildest things that people have done. I guess ours would be when we went to a club not far from New Orleans where there were couples on stage and we sat in the front row and watched them perform on stage. We had had a few drinks and I decided that I wanted to join the guy on stage. I went to the side of the stage and walked up, and everyone started cheering, and I started to strip. There I was naked on stage in front of about 40 to 50 other couples and I got down on my knees and gave the guy on stage a great blow job. When I got off my hubby asked me if I wanted to go up there and perform with him. We ended up having sex on stage. It was exciting and fun and I wish I could do it again.

Once again it appears that someone writes a book saying Swinging is their way or no way. If that was the case I could make up 1000's of "what if's" and most would not qualify to call their self a "swinger". Life is what you make of it, this Lifestyle is what you make of it. Lifestyle books are good for fixing short table legs.