Hi there and !! We're so glad you found our little corner of the world!
You're roughly the same age as my husband. He would agree with you about "time". He has no problem with us together, and really FWIW, there is no time line or any expectations to sex, is there? Each sexual episode is different but wonderful, therefore, each man is going to be different, but each one exciting in his own right.
Dave brings a small dose of viagra with us on play dates, but he doesn't always use it. The one thing I've noticed is that he can last just as long with or without the drug. The only difference is that he can recover quicker and keep on playing while medicated.
Now, since I am a woman, I can truthfully answer that in all seriousness, I love sex as much as anyone, but constant thrusting for more than about 10 minutes is enough to make me sore. Longevity is not all it's cracked up to be. We've been contacted by men who boast of their thrusting power and can last up to 45 minutes. Well honestly, that really scares the hell outta me. Do you know how much that would hurt [me]?