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Express as much of the breast milk as you can before your playmates arrive. If you have a couple hours of delay before you play, excuse yourself and express the liquid again. Do not do this in front of your potential playmates as this is a turn off for the guy. Also, you need to make certain that they are aware that you are still lactating and that even though you have expressed as much as you can at the time, there still may be some leakage during play. It is each person’s responsibility to be honest and up front with potential playmates. You know that breast milk gives this guy the willies. He should be given the courtesy of knowing that you are lactating and that you have done everything in your power to stop the flow while playing. Yes, there is nothing in the book that says breasts MUST be played with or sucked while playing. If that is your desire, you must do all you can to eliminate the possibility of expression during play. Everyone must be comfortable when playing. So, make them comfy and have a great time.

“This is entirely up to you but it is my personal opinion that if you can't handle your partner going off to be alone with someone else, you can't really handle swinging. You might be worrying too much about what they're doing to really enjoy it yourself. Give each other space.” I’m going to play devil’s advocate here… (Please understand that I haven’t read the book, so I may be putting words into the author’s mouth. I don’t mean to – I think she could have explained herself better.) Putting safety concerns aside for a minute, I think the author meant this paragraph to be a ‘gut check’ - a way to gauge your jealousy level. All things being equal (again, safety concerns aside) if the thought of your SO in another room with a playmate ignites any embers of jealousy within you, then maybe you need to think about that. In that context, I can not only understand the author’s point, but can also agree with it to a certain extent. There’s also the ‘power’ issue. We have met some very controlling men in our experiences. We know more than one couple where the male insists on being in the same room, not because he’s concerned for her safety or turned on by watching, but because he wants to direct what happens, and approve just about every move she makes – one guy even wanted to approve of which position his wife screwed in. No, they’re not friends of ours – we met them at a party and were turned off completely by the men involved. ‘Give each other space’ is not only good advice in this instance, it may even qualify as ‘words to live by’ for these people. As I said before, I think she could have explained this a lot better. I will give her points for declaring that it is just her opinion. Like I said, maybe I’m putting words into her mouth – I don’t know. It is a thought provoking topic though.

I am listed as bi-sexual. Simply because I am fully bi. I can be attracted to a woman just as intensely as I can a man. I can love a woman just as fully as I can a man. Yet, when it comes to swinging, many are confused that I can be just as happy functioning as fully straight when enjoying playtime with an individual, a couple or a group. I do not need to be with a woman sexually in order to be happy in playtime. Just as I do not need to be with a man to be happy in an episode of playtime. I do not presume in any play situation that the woman would like to play sexually with me, no matter how she is listed, until we have had the conversation or she has led me to understand her desire for same sex play. And even in that, I like conversation since there are so many variations on "playing bi "or "being bi" or "bi-curious" as we have all seen in threads throughout SB. Case on point, I have a female friend who is fully bi. She has been with several woman in play time who say they are bi. Yet, when it comes down to play time, what goes around does not come around. They want to be touched by a woman but have absolutely no desire to give to a woman. This has led to painful and unfulfilling experiences for her. Which is a great point for what Fuse and others have noted regarding expanding upon what bi or female-female play means to the profile writer within their profile. For me, the label I must chose of the 3 offered in Swing Lifestyle, speaks to my sexual orientation. Not how I play. I am not one to enjoy labels. Either put to me, or putting them on others. But I do work to accept there are circumstances in life where without a label a beginning would be difficult. Just as CXXC mentions. The beauty lies in those who chose to discuss after seeing/hearing a label in discovering a person, idea or position.

I just read this entire thread. Epic. Reminds me of another forum I post at where a lot of personal advice is often asked, and ignored. Here's what's often posted to summarize it, and always makes me laugh: OP: "Help! HELP! I'm stuck in a well!!!" posters1-4: "Climb! Climb up and take our hands!" OP: "I'm thinking I should dig... should I dig?" poster5: "NO! I was trapped in a well, and digging is a bad idea! Climb out!" posters6-8: "Were lowering ropes! Take hold of a rope!" poster9: "I've even tied a harness to the end of this one!" OP: "I can feel the ropes, but I don't want to hold onto them... should I dig?" poster10: "No! If you dig, you'll hit water, and then you'll be proper fucked. I should know, I almost drowned." OP: "I dug a little bit just now, and I haven't hit water. I'm gonna keep digging..." posters11-18: "No! Climb! Climb out!" OP: "Guys, I'm seriously stuck in this well! Help! HELP!!!" poster19: "I was trapped in a well once. It took me two years, but I managed to build a climbing machine that pulled me to safety out of a well bucket and a pocket watch. I'm dropping the blueprints, extra buckets, and an assortment of pocket watches." poster20: "I've engineered a jet-pack that will rocket you to safety. Stay where you are and we'll lower it down!"" "OP: "Thanks for your help, guys. I'm gonna keep digging. I'll find the Mines of Moria and I'll just walk to the surface." **posters1-20 piss in the well** poster21: "Guys, seriously... stop peeing in the well.""