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To Fun4al I think there is one area of relationships that men understand way sooner than women, and that is you can't please someone that is not interested in pleasing you. I hear in real life and online that men seem to jump from one woman to another like changing underwear, but it seems to take us less time to realize that a woman is out for her own pleasure and believes men will settle for anything she gives him if he is getting some. That is wrong thinking if it comes from a man or a woman. In your case, you are dealing with a man that thinks YOU will do anything he says because he knows you want to please him, but he doesn't care if you are uncomfortable with what you are doing as long as you do it his way. Thats just plain selfish, childish, and irresponsible. Everyone is telling you to dump him, but thats not enough. You also have to make up your mind not to depend on anyone to make your life complete before you commit yourself to pleasing him or anyone else. My suggestion, since you are single and looking for a fmf experience, would be to keep in contact with the woman from your first two posts and ask her if she has a male friend that she trusts to look out for her desires and set up an fmf with them. You don't have a real commitment to this guy because he has no commitment to you. Not in the real sense of making sacrifices for your pleasure in return for the sacrifices you make for his. YOU ARE SINGLE! LIVE IT!!! While I want to be in a relationship again, I've had enough bad ones to know when I'm starting to attach myself to a loser before I get in too deep. I look for the good traits, but if I only see bad traits, I don't let my pride convince me that just one more romantic evening or thoughtful gift or weekend getaway will make things better. I have a talk about what I'm feeling for her and from her, and if she makes light of it or tells me I'm wrong, I say "You're right, I made a wrong decision" and I walk away. It hurts, but it eliminates almost all the drama. And drama is only good in books, movies, and T.V. Take care of YOURSELF, or you'll never be able to take care of others.