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Oh, absolutely no means no! I think that the point here is that it is not the "other couple" that will break the rule, but half or both of the rule-making couple itself who will not be able to keep the rule. Therein lies the drama, as many many threads on this site can attest to. I know that we would steer clear of a couple that had those sort of potential drama bombs as rules. (not to mention that playing with a no-kissing couple, as we did in our newbie days, was just too hard. Complying with the other couple's rule was a given, as far as we were concerned, but the effort required to comply with the rule interfered with our enjoyment of the activity.)

In the beginning, we read so many discussion about rules that we figured we should have some too. Our list was as long as anyone elses. In a moment of inspiration, we decided to flush the rules and state our preferences in a positive light. So we have preferences that describe what we enjoy rather than rules that state what we wont do. We prefer respecting the feelings and individual preferences of our spouse. (domestic tranquility) We prefer play with experienced swingers. (minimizes drama potential) We prefer small house parties. (plenty of variety in a fun environment) You can call it a universal rule of swinging - "no" means no without regard for anything previously understood. Each decision to play is based on our assessment of the potential for fun and that includes the ability to communicate effectively along with mutual motivation. We decided separate room play was not an issue with us and we "graduated" to full swap on our second playtime. We discovered that it's not so much "what" or "where" we do with our playmates that makes the difference. We're here because of the sexual excitement we'll take home with us (and we're more than happy to contribute toward your excitement). We can be just as excited by a fun cuddle session or a sweaty, grunty full swap - it's all in the attitude.