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Boy, another one for interesting philosophical discussion... I'd have to start with the assumptions on this one... As I don't think there is conclusive proof that one's sexuality is defined genetically. Granted there is research that supports this theory, but there is research to support almost any viewpoint. Is homosexuality hardwired? Way off topic and a different discussion. We all choose to be active sexually, and if you agree with Darwinism, survival of the fittest and natural selection and all of those, then swinging becomes a quite natural extension of this in a world where monogamy is the cultural norm. The desire to seek out as many playmates as possible and "spreading your seed" far and wide. Yet intellect gives us the ability to control those desires. We are not forced to act upon them, but we choose to do so. Our theory is simple. Humankind is not designed to be monagamous, not in our basest form. We are always looking at others, contemplating what we see on a physical level. Culturally, we are in a monogamous society. This has been built through the ages to promote stability in society. This in itself causes so many arguments in different areas - homosexuality, marriage rights, even the abortion issue. If you notice, each one of those arguments is based on things that go against society's norms (primarily religion, the strongest enforcer of our society rules). Even watching porn is considered taboo in our society, and looked at in another way is a form of voyeurism and then possibly swinging (granted the couple or more on the DVD can't see you, but is it really that much different from same-room swinging?) Either way, we think the answer is this: we become swingers as we develop trust within our relationship and eliminate jealousy in our lives. As our bonds become stronger between us as a couple with others, it alleviates the natural sexual tension while forming bonds between the couples that promote friendship and openness. Is swinging an addiction? Quite possibly. While we all say we can stop if we needed to, we would feel some kind of withdrawl from the "fun days." Simply because we are closing part of ourselves off. It would be like grounding your child or taking away their favorite toy. Can they live without it? Sure. But something that is gone and lost does cause some kind of pain. Are we hardwired to be swingers? This has to be a no. We're hardwired to wander from person to person and express physical desires, but swinging is something that couples do together to explore their desires, with a foundation of a monogamous relationship. We've never heard of this kind of group mate seeking within the animal kingdom, (although it could exist), which leads us to think that this is a societal stabilizer that allows us as a group to relieve those tensions built up from fighting our natural wandering.