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Hi there. First off, welcome! This is (I think) definitely the right place to come with this problem. Unfortunately I doubt if you're going to like the answers you're likely to get. The fact is, she has set her limits based on her comfort level, just as you did according to your comfort level. The only problem is, your comfort level and hers are different, however that is really the only difference. You can certainly keep trying to convince her that you're not going to be stolen away (a phrase which makes me think she is a little uncertain if you guys are really in a place to play like this), but in the end you have to decide if her restrictions are something you can live with or not, and what to do about it from there. You can either keep doing what your doing, enjoy the show she puts on for you and be thankful for what you have until such time that she changes her views while knowing that that may never happen. Or you can decide that it's fair or nothing and so deny her the opportunities for MMF's or any FF play. Or you can decide that this is something you have to have in a relationship and look elsewhere for a partner who will give that to you. Sneaking around to be with other women or couples or to set something up should not even be an option. If it is, just bite the bullet, admit your marriage doesn’t give you what you need, and file for divorce. As to her being afraid that some other woman will "steal you away", all I can say is that no one can steal what can't be stolen. If she really felt that you and she were rock solid, then I don't think this would be a concern for her at all. She though has expressed a concern that if you fool around with another woman, you may wind up leaving her, and that belies an insecurity that is anathema to this way of life. If you should choose to go with the first option (which most will say is the best one, but only you can know for sure), I'd say that you are currently on the right path. Talk to her gently, and let her experience the joy of knowing many different partners, and let her know that you love her, but that you too want that joy. Don't pretend that you want to do it just to give her a good show (it's obvious that your satisfaction is what is compelling you here, otherwise this wouldn’t be an issue for you), but be completely honest with her about your feelings. Find ways to show her that no other woman will come between the two of you, and maybe in time she will come to trust that no harm will befall your relationship if you play with another woman. Most of all, be patient, and do not get frustrated when this doesn't work. The more anxious you are, the more likely it is that her insecurities will simply increase.