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Mrs. Alura was fond of saying, "Most women's favorite fantasy involves having three men... one doing laundry, one cooking, and one running the vacuum cleaner." Mr. Alura

Concur with Rackir about the sense of "fair". Drop the issue from a fairness perspective, because swinging isn't about being fair. What works for you is what works for you. I recall a poll here a while back, well participated in, that showed the biggest fantasy of male participants of this board wasn't being with two women, it was being in an MFM. I think that surprises most people. Me personally, I thoroughly enjoy watching my wife have sex with another man, and participating in that. She absolutely loves having sex and giving head at the same time, which is of course impossible without another man involved. As Rackir said, how much she enjoys it is a seriously major turn on for me, and I'm very happy to oblige her and make that fantasy a reality. Some men, like some women, can be insecure. There can be any number of reasons why your partner might feel threatened by another man having sex with you. It would be good to ensure your partner that this is sexual, and not emotional, that you are utterly devoted to him, love him, will not leave him over this, etc. You might also want to make it clear to him that you want him directly involved in the MFM, not as a spectator (if you do). My wife doesn't mind me watching, but she prefers me being involved. After all, she can have one-on-one sex with me. She doesn't need the other guy for that. I agree with Rackir; make your partner aware, through various means, how much the fantasy turns you on.

Ah, fairness again . I'd think that the first step is to get him to clearly enunciate what it is about the MFM scenario that he doesn’t like. Without having a good understanding of his resistance it's hard to work on it. You may want to leave out the issue of "fair", because that can make it seem as though you are only doing the FMF threesomes for his benefit, which I am assuming is not the case. After all, if it's something you both enjoy, isn’t it automatically fair? Now I know things aren’t always that simple, it may be that you really enjoy the FMF's, but for him it's the realization of a lifelong fantasy, which makes them somwhat more satisfying to him than to you (not to indicate that they are unsatisfying to you, just not AS satisfying), but playing the fair card can make t seem that way, and it might be part of his mental defense. So rather than go for fair, just explain to him what you want and why you want it. Maybe share with him a fantasy involving two guys while you two are in bed together. I can't speak for your boyfriend, but I suspect most guys have a hard time not getting turned on by a scenario that their girlfriend is getting obviously worked up over. Once it's entered into his sexual paradigm through your fantasy it may be a shorter trip to making it reality. Porn is another good avenue for that to take place. Watch a porn with him, and when the inevitable MFM scene comes on, let him see how hot it makes you. Personally I can't picture the scenario which would whip my wife into a masturbational frenzy that I would then say no too. Remember, we (guys) are conditioned damn near from birth to judge our sexual prowess by how well we satisfy women. If he sees how much the thought turns you on, there’s a fair chance he's going to want to be the one to give it to you. Edit - Oh yeah, and "Hi! Welcome to the board!"