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After looking back and reading many posts, I think Mrs. CXXC and I did everything backwards. We started out playing solo and then decided to play as a couple with others. We still have our solo dates but play mostly as a couple now. We know exactly with whom, where and when each other is when we play solo. The safety factors are minimized as much as possible. We do not go into this as if we are cheating. We look at this as a gift we give to one another (The freedome to play solo) without issue. We talk aobut our solo "Dates" before and after and feel great excitement for one another each time. It is quite fun and a thrill. Just do what makes you BOTH comfy! Be careful and remember to talk openly about any concerns EITHER of you have.

I have found that swinging is a lot like dating; the patterns can be very similar. Most guys don't want to be friends with a woman in the hopes that he might be able to score at some point. He's in it for the sex. The guy wants to nail the girl, then see if it becomes more. Swinging is (in my opinion) about sex. I know we're in it for the sex, and that's where we're going to put our efforts. If we become friends along the way with the people we meet, that's great -- but we're not out there to make friends, we're out there to have sex with people. I don't know if we're the norm or not, but that's our approach. But, we could be in the minority.