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I think I would agree with that statement but I'm sure you can't just make a blanket statement like that to be completely fair. As far as the original question of 'are most male swingers by-sexual?' I am not homophobic but I have absolutely no desire or curiosity to know how anything would feel with another man. In a MFM situation or even MFMF there can be a lot of accidental or misguided groping but it better be accidental or misguided. Would I be able to tell the difference if it was a woman or man, maybe not but I don't care to find out. In a MFM scenario, it's all about my wife and we (me and the other guy) are there to make her experience the best it can be. Keep your attention on her please! I have no problem with others that are bi-sexual as they respect my boundaries. If your wife had boundaries and another guy or woman overstepped them I'm sure you would be pissed. It's the same with me. Be respectful or be with someone else. That's it.

It seems to make sense that a lot of single male swingers would be secretly bi. If you were single shouldn't you be spending your time looking for a new girlfriend first rather than chasing couples? I understand a straight guy needing a break from the dating scene and jumping at the chance to swing but I expect his preference would be a bisexual female couple. If a guy is perpetually single and only swings you have to wonder don't you? There are clearly many gay and bi men in South Florida but I feel that has more to do with the open sexual culture than anything else. As people become more open sexually they are more likely to act on their curiosities. Also I think Latin men have a less prudish attitude towards sex than most Americans. There is the attitude that any hole will do.

I tend to agree with most of this stuff. I have had a few bisexual experiences before and all though they where a turn. It really was not my thing. For me I find that if things happen in a 3 some and your not paranoid about being overly close to another man and just letting general things happen and I'm really not talking about giving another man head. It can be fantastic. When married to my ex wife we swung fairly often. We had one friend my wife enjoyed because of his rather thick cock.. She loved nothing more than me licking her clit and all her pussy while he was fucking her. For this you better not be to gun shy. Also probably the best orgasm I had every had we where both inside her at the same time. We could literally feel each other all three of us came at the same time filling my then wife with and extreme amount of come that ran down all her legs. She loved it.

I tend to agree with the orginal poster. The first time we swung, I had NO idea who was sucking my dick (with a woman sitting on my face). A guy sucked my dick without my knowledge, so does that make me bi? When a woman is riding my face and I'm getting the best head of my life, am I going to care if it is a male or female who is doing the sucking? Never even entered my mind at the time! My experience at the Chicago area clubs is almost ALL single guys wanting to be with a couple are open to m/m contact during a 3some. The same goes for AFF and other swing sites. Just as an experiment on AFF, I put up two profiles, one as a bi couple and the other as a straight couple looking for a male to join us. Pretty much the same group of single guys replied. Many stating, "my profile says straight but I would want to suck your dick." In their response to the other profile, they were completely straight! My guess is 80-90% of single guys looking for couples are bi to some degree. With couples, I was suprised how many guys are bi. When we meet other couples, we do tell them that we are OK with m/m contact, but do not expect me to recripcate. We have been with about 30 couples, alot of "straight" men wanted to feel or suck my dick once I told them I was open to it. My guess is only about 10% admit being bi when asked, but behind closed doors with an couple who is accepting of the other guy being bi and it jumps up past 50%. I always felt I was 100% straight until I started swinging. I still am very passively bi, but it certainly doesn't bother me if a guy wants to feel my dick and size me up before I give his wife the ride of her life... If he wants to suck his his wife's juices off my dick when I'm done, more power to him.

As a bisexual male, my estimation is that about half of the men I've known who were swingers were completely and totally straight. No interest in any male contact at all. Of the other half, maybe four in five didn't mind some contact with another man to varying degrees from didn't mind casual touching to being ok with another man doing things to them but didn't want to reciprocate. The other one fifth of the remainder was bisexual from the point of enjoying male-male sex to "could have emotional relationships with another man." That's my unscientific sampling as a keen social observer. As far as the unsatiated sex goes, I suspect that's sampling bias. This means that the types of people who go to swingers clubs or get togethers where sex is allowed are more likely the types of people who like to have sex often with several partners in a night. Some might call these folks hard-core swingers (pun intended), but again, my experience has been that most swingers I've known over the years who considered themselves part of the "Lifestyle" (as opposed to couples who dip their, errr, toes into the water and do it for a little while then stop) have a few regular partners they swing with, are open to meeting new couples, but might only have sex with another couple from a few times a month to a couple times a year. Don't fall into the trap of thinking "your" type of swinging is superior. That's an ugly way of looking down on other folks..