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I may be way off base here but the "vibe" I get from your OP is that you're either not interested in playing at all, meaning she would have to play by herself, or that you feel inadequate because of your age/size. I get the feeling that you feel like you're throwing salt on her game so to speak. But in the lifestyle everyone must be compatible or no one is. On the other hand I also kinda get the feeling that you really don't enjoy her being with other men but because of your size/age you are willing to tolerate it. Again I could be waaaay off. It's just what came through to me. If you are OK with it it's one thing. But "OK with it", to me, means it's something you are willing to tolerate. Not something you want. I know couples in which the male would rather watch than participate. It's a turn on for them. We've dome FMF, MFM, FMFMF, FMFMFM, etc. I enjoy my knowing my wife is enjoying herself and vice versa. On the other hand I know couples that would never entertain the idea of a single male. It's all up to the couple and none of them are wrong. The main reason I get this feeling is that you don't want to be involved with her request for you to join her in a MFM. In reality that is her way of her getting what she wants and trying to incorporate you in the experience. You use the terms "adjusted to" and "willing to". These are not good terms. They don't imply desire. They imply acceptance. Here's my take. She loves you. She married you. She would be OK never being with anyone other than you. Even if she "wanted" to be with someone else she is willing to abstain because of this. She's doing so because she thinks you are not OK with it. And there's nothing wrong with that at all. From either one of your perspectives. But only you know if you really OK with it or not. Her wanting to have sexual experiences with others, with or without you there, is not what you are trying to convince her to do. Nor should you. That would be like her trying to convince you to do the MFM. No matter what she says, if it's not your thing it's not your thing. What you should be trying to convince her of is that it would please you if she did so. But only if it does. Did any of that make sense?

Ass bleaching??? Good grief!! I am trying to bleach the brown spots on my face with my extra money, my ass will be the last thing I worry about. LOL