1. Same room only
2. Condoms
3. Disease free
4. Hard drug free (pot ok)
5. Drama free
and the newest rule
6. No pushing on the back of Ms. Freshcream's head while she's giving head (i.e., the No Gag Rule)
His wife is "out of the loop" because she doesn't know her husband is trying to cheat on her. He is "out of the loop" because he doesn't know his wife is trying to cheat on him. Your wife is "out of the loop" because she doesn't know about you and his wife. Your "out of the loop" because you don't seem to realize how fucked up this is.