I never much cared for bj's. For me it was always ok and felt good but never a big deal - probably something to do with my first girlfriend gagging and being extremely disgusted after I blew a load in her mouth - maybe affected my later attitudes. Anyhow, since then I came to realize that most women quite enjoy it and partake happily. I found my wife to be a bit odd in that regard and told her so. Over the years I have grown to crave abit more bj. It's like anything else; you crave it more when you can't have it. Could I live without it? Sure, but I'd rather not be made to feel like I have to. I think my lovely wife is really a tiger inside given the right circumstances coupled with a lot of love and positive encouragement. We're heading out to another c/o resort in the next few weeks and we're expecting/Hoping to have a few pleasant experiences to talk about upon our return.