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Hmmm... Well, Mrs P and I had the same deal going in, in the fact that I had "been around" and she had not, with me being her only one to that point. When we started out the conversation was much the same. She was curious if she was missing out on an experience by only having sex with me for her whole life, but she was content. I think you and her really need to get to the meat of the problem, and that is her inability to reconcile her desire to see you have as much fun as her vs. her potential jealousy issue. You mentioned she thinks you'll drop her for someone else, which you know is preposterous, but obvious she thinks is not. I'm no woman, so I can't call myself the expert, but I think your wife needs to know that you find her beautiful in ways no one else can possibly see, and she needs to know that you are there to protect her as such. Obviously you'll encounter beautiful looking women in the course of swinging, and even women who have outstanding personalities that you'll connect with on some intellectual level, but she is your world, and no matter what happens, nothing is going to crack that foundation. Once you both believe that; TRULY buy into that, then you MIGHT be ready to try introducing other people into your intimate world. My strong suggestion is that so long as she, or you for that matter, are in conflict over your feelings about this you don't do something that you can't "undo". Okay, preachy shit over with. If her concern is that you'll go running after the first dandy pair of tits you see, perhaps your first experience should be to go to a club. Resolve to each other that you are there to observe only for that night, and if you get randy you'll only touch and have sex with each other. This will serve several purposes: -You both get to gauge how she feels when you are around naked women and she will see for herself that her fears that you'll go running off are unfounded. -You will, with your HARD RULE IN PLACE NOT TO PLAY, be able to take in the immense sensory experience of seeing a room full of naked people getting it on and still be able to "keep your head screwed on", so to speak. Basically, since you're not going to be groping and grinding, you'll have done nothing that could damage your relationship should jealously rear its ugly head. -She will see that, in the face of all these other people you could potentially be playing around with, you choose to play with her. -If things get out of hand or it's too much for either of you, you can step away without hurting anyone's feelings or having to "explain your way out". Either way, take this one step at a time. If the club thing intrigues you both and you're comfortable, take it to the next level. Perhaps either go back to the club and get naked with other willing participants in the room and maybe do some touching but still only have sex with each other. There are other threads on here that address these issues.. I encourage you to read around, you'll be enlightened. The most important rule to remember though is to go as fast as the slowest person. Swinging CAN be a lot of fun, but it can also be a big fat grenade if you're not careful, and it's not for everyone. Consider the possibility that this might never happen. Own that possibility... Be okay with that possibility. If you're not, you're going to be tempted to push things along, and that is where real damage can occur. Clear as mud? Mr P