You're suggesting that folks here, *within their marriage* lack the "safe zone" required to share a fantasy.
Sorry... but I think you're *way* off base here. The number one requirement that gets called out time and again for this alternate lifestyle is openness, honesty, and mutual respect...
To say that you think all of these women are just hiding/suppressing their true fantasies because they don't feel comfortable sharing with their "repulsor" husbands is self-serving at best, borderline insulting at worst...