Leaderboard

Because your post was very strongly worded and also broadly general. It was pretty much the same tone Chicup uses, just from the opposite perspective. So extend it then. What if Chicup had said that all of the husbands he knows in the lifestyle have indicated that their wives don't have this fantasy? That would effectively be the same thing. Point is I don't accept the idea that women don't feel "safe" sharing this fantasy because of some kind of fear of backlash. People in this lifestyle are pretty open about sexuality. As for a guy not being bi, yet being willing to have sex with another man to satisfy his wife, I find it incredibly unlikely. What would we say to a totally straight woman having sex with another woman, despite having no attraction to women at all, just to satisfy her husband? We would say it was tragic. We would say she "took one for the team". We would say it was lousy, etc. We might even say it was abusive of the husband to push her, etc. Now *could* that happen to a man? I suppose it could. Is it *far* less likely? Yes. I think the *vast* majority of the time, a man who satisfies this fantasy for his wife is by definition bi-curious and, if he in any way enjoys it, he is certainly bi-sexual in some way.

I don't get it. You didn't have anyone within screaming distance the first time you had sex with your husband, did you? Why is this so much more dangerous? Women have sex with men they hardly know all the time, and it works out just fine 99.999% of the time. Just use your head, let someone know where you're going to be, and do what you'd do if you were dating. Is there any evidence that women are at more risk for being hurt when meeting a man for sex than they are walking to their car? Taking domestic violence and prostitution out of the picture, of course. I mean that as a serious question. I don't know the answer, but if someone had stats, I'd love to hear them. I suspect if meeting men for sex was that dangerous, there would be PSA's warning us about it.