Leaderboard

Ok, I actually just went searching last weekend on my own without seeing this, and I have a few more. My List: Life On The Swingset - Active MRnMSBhaven - Not Active SuperSecretSwinger - Active Swap Fu - Active Swing Life - Not Active SwingerCast - Active This Secret Married Life -Active Other sex podcasts I listen to: BathTalk (Kidder and Jade) Sex is Fun The First 100 Episodes of Sex is Fun Polyamory Weekly Ask Dan and Jennifer I have downloaded what I can of the non-active (as far as I can tell) 'casts and keep them around to listen to again, and All of them have great things to learn and to stay focused on. I won't post RSS Feeds, I don't have any kind of permission to do so (Swinging privacy being what it is), but Itunes store searches or google should show up fairly well. Remember, you can usually subscribe to a feed that it not on your player's native store. For Itunes, this is in (Advanced>Subscribe to Podcast).

howdy, newbie to the forums here, definitely not new to swinging. i've read some pretty good critiques on other forums and have seen some pretty good 'don'ts'. one that has stuck out is try to avoid the cliches. how many people do you know are actually looking for diseased druggies? and what the hell did ken and barbie do to people? turn them down? i think you get the point. use the space for something useful to potential suitors. that being said, the first thing that makes me click away from a profile is when i see HWP. this is the most over used cliche i have seen yet. for example, as visually appealing as you two are, according to the latest charts, neither of you are HWP but overweight, (google BMI charts) so you see how this can be turned against your favor. yes, there are people out there THAT picky. perhaps a 'we tend to be attracted to body types similar to ours' would be a little less 'self serving'. the rest of the profile is direct and to the point. well written with a tad of redundancy as stated previously. there is no doubt what you are looking for in play partners. adding the HWP 'requirement' tends to make it a little transparent. you may as well have just made your tag line 'FAT PEOPLE STOP EMAILING US!' :lol::lol:

well, every newbie set is different i suppose. Our FIRST ever play session was wracked with things we'd never thought we'd do. We got lucky our first couple had a suitcase full of fun amazing sex toys and we tried a whole bunch of them out. But we knew our limits and no one had any trouble politely saying "no" to something they didn't want. I don't think the Mr. and I are (were?) your typical newbs. We ended up with some crazy full swap, double vaginal penetration, a double ended dildo and other crazy stuff. Most of our other encounters since then have been a lot less wild (which is fine) but we don't mind the crazy stuff.

Every couple has to face 'the first time'. Until that first time, there will always be some ambivalence among one or both members of the couple. If there were no ambivalence, the first time would be long past. Paradoxically, the least threatening approach may be the most direct (at an appropriate time, of course): couple-to-couple, 'we are attracted to you, would you like to play?' But then give them a private moment (or three) to communicate with one another to see if their desire is sufficient to overcome their ambivalence. Newbies know on some visceral level that they will eventually need to address this moment. If the answer is no, help them by offering a graceful response. If the answer is an enthusiastic yes, go for it. Good luck...

It's ironic that so many swingers expect understanding of when it comes to their particular situation, but show very little towards others. We would rather make a decision based on the individuals involved, the same as with any other couple.