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Isn't that the bottom line in many ways? Despite the fact that all of us have someone that will turn us down based on appearance, race, etc., in the end, if we have a positive and attractive attitude, and the ability to communicate well with others, we won't have too much difficulty in finding playmates.

Sorry, DE_BBC, but that's the same thing I got out of your posted statements. And unfortunately, it's a point of view that far too many people of all colors try to make fly nowadays. It's no different than the contention that it's okay for me to use the N-word because I happen to be black - but if a member of any other race uses it, it's akin to burning a cross on the lawn. If one expects the argument that someone whose sole reason for not considering sex with someone because of their race is a racist to fly, then someone whose sole reason for considering sex with someone because of their race is also a racist. Just because one happens to work out to their advantage doesn't factor into the equation. The number one reason we personally have told others 'No Thanks' when approached is simply a lack of sexual attraction either by me, her or both of us. Easily the second most frequent reason (even with those we did think were sexually attractive) was they let us know that they were not the kind of people we care to be around - namely those who relate to others as individuals instead of merely representatives of a particular group. We have turned down white couples whose profiles are plastered with statements of how much she loves black cock. We have turned down couples who told us they have always wanted to fuck a black man/woman. We have turned downed black couples who said they will do white women but not white men. We don't go to any parties advertised as 'interracial' or 'Black-Only'. Another big turn-off has been popping up a lot lately: "We have been looking for a black couple for a long time"... including a couple of groups. As several posters have already pointed out - the issue of race is a complicated one. And IMO, one that has an amazing ability to wrap itself in a 50/50 mix of emotionalism and bullshit to repel all logic. But within the lifestyle, it actually funnels down into a much easier to handle issue. Who we choose to have sex with is one of the few true choices we have. It's also one of the few things where "Because I don't wanna" is a perfectly acceptable, inarguable answer. Like everyone else, I have my views on race.. and at an appropriate time in a appropriate venue, I can debate it with anyone so inclined. But to those who choose to bring up the issue as a handy-dandy, one-size-fits-all rant as to why someone doesn't want to get with you, I submit: Uh Huh - and by pointing that out, you hope to accomplish...? Within the lifestyle, has the result of such a conversation ever been, "I have seen the light and now I find you incredibly hot..when can we get together?" Despite your well-thought out, eloquently expressed, heart-felt opinion - - they still ain't gonna fuck ya! Wouldn't one's time be better spent by simply moving to the next sexy person to whom you might be exactly what they are looking for? I apologize to the OP for straying from your original question - but look at this and the other strays off topic as more justification supporting my original suggestion to just block those who feel 'No Thanks' requires further clarification. (see how neatly I tied that in..)