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Um..how? "Why?" -- Their answer: "She is 5' 10" tall and prefers men taller than her". If you are 5'6" tall, are you going to grow another 5 inches or so and hit them back with, "how about now"..? "Why?" -- Their answer: "He likes women with larger breasts". Are you going to get your wife a boob job and hit them back with, "How about now"..? "Why?" -- Their answer: "She likes well-endowed men, and from your nude pics you don't qualify". Do you know of a new procedure that will pump a 6-incher up to a 12 incher that you plan on getting and then hitting them back with, "How about now"...? "Why?" -- Their answer: "We are not attracted to blacks". Are you going to bleach your skin, surgically alter your features and wear a wig, then hit them back with, "How about now"..? I'm seriously not trying to ridicule anyone ... I'm just trying to get some clarification on how asking and getting an answer to 'why' is helpful. The examples I used above are probably the more likely ones that would be encountered..and what they have in common is that changing them would require extraordinary measures which,of course, rational people aren't going to do. What really happens in response to answers such as this is that they invite further dialouge, rebuttal, and/or negotiations. "Why?" -- Their answer: "She is 5' 10" tall and prefers men taller than her". Rebuttal: "When we are prone, height is irrelevant and I have a big dick." "Why?" -- Their answer: "He likes women with larger breasts". Rebuttal: "Anything over a handful is a waste and she can suck-start a Harley." "Why?" -- Their answer: "She likes well-endowed men, and from your nude pics you don't qualify". Rebuttal: "It's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean and I eat pussy like a champ." "Why?" -- Their answer: "We are not attracted to blacks". Rebuttal:" That is racist and once you go black, you won't go back". The responses can go on for quite some time - but I promise you that unless the originators of the 'No thanks' are total pushovers, it's going to come back to 'We aren't interested and we ain't gonna fuck you'. I have had others point out that sometimes there are things that turn off others that are easily changed. Examples: Men with facial hair, women wearing sexy clothing, full swap only, soft swap only,shaved below the belt/not shaved below the belt, etc. I'll concede that point...but then ask If you really want to go there. I had this conversation with some lifestyle acquaintances who did want to go there. Both of the guys really enjoyed giving women facials..something my wife and I aren't particularly into (tried it a couple of times between ourselves over the years and found it more humorous than erotic). I knew that both of these guys wives didn't do anal, so I simply asked them, "If G lets you give her a facial, can I fuck your wives in the ass?" Of course, the answer was 'no'. I see... so G is 'spoda do something she isn't into - but your wives aren't? Interesting concept....! (NOT!) Everyone has one or two 'no's...and they are not an abbreviation for 'No, ask me if I might make an exception for you'. Perhaps I've missed something over the years, but isn't one of the great things about swinging is that it's all about finding someone whose thing matches your thing and having fun playing with each other's things? If their thing doesn't match your's -- move on to the next thing and if you need to, take solace in the fact that their thing isn't 'one-size-fits-all' ... they get told 'No thanks' too. M