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Years ago in Germany I met a Black Man/White Woman couple who had been married for some years and had three children. She admitted she was prejudiced against white men because she had always been attracted to black men only. She claimed to have never had sex with a white man although there were "quite a few" black guys who "have tasted me." "White men just don't do it for me," she said. I think we were dealing with taste there. Like many of life's decisions, I think she had a right to her choice.

Hey guys, so I read the entire post ... twice. I am glutton for punishment, I guess . I'm not going to go into a lot of the details because I think a degree in psychology is required here to analyze this fully but there were a few things that I noted pretty clearly. You started off by saying that you two are very much in love and even followed it up with another post talking about "still getting the butterflies" etc. but the drama in this post is just mind numbing. It really is. Communication is everything in this lifestyle. Did you two ever once sit down and talk about why you wanted to do this other than it was a fantasy of yours? What did the two of you EACH expect to get out of it? What did you think it would bring into the relationship? I could go on forever here asking "why" questions but I truly believe neither of you know why. This is the most dysfunctional post I have ever read. You said that you two never argued except about this one thing in your life. Maybe you keep doing it because you enjoy arguing. I would suggest maybe politics or religion as I think those would be less destructive than swinging and it wouldn't involve others. I'm trying to be light hearted but I'm really serious. Maybe what you are missing in your relationship is emotion and this seems to be stirring up quite a bit. The two of you need to sit down and have a long talk because there are issues in your relationship that is obvious to everyone else here reading this thread that isn't obvious to you. Maybe that you posted this, you both have an idea that something is wrong but deep down I think the two of you have lots to talk about. Swinging should be a positive event and I haven't heard anything positive anywhere throughout this post. Are you two REALLY being honest with each other? Obviously you BOTH are getting a lot more out of it than you want to admit. If you can't be honest to each other then maybe that is where you should start looking into whats going on in your relationship. Our thoughts.