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In regards to finding gals for "just sex" - it's certainly not like the quest for the holy grail. It's comes down to exactly how specific (picky) you are about partners. In regards to meeting partners in the Lifestyle: As a single guy in the lifestyle, I've found great success with many of the local swinger-groups in my area (most of them have Yahoo-Groups or other such bulletin-board type pages). I introduce myself... interact with the people on the group with respect & treat everyone as well as I expect to be treated. I *flirt*. I support those people who're going through hard times... laugh with those who're sharing a good time. I basically make myself into a "known entity" within those groups. ... attending "Meet-n-Greets" or other social-/non-play events is also a great ice-breaker. Some of these turn into "play-events" afterward ... but that's totally dependent on how well you've interacted with the folk at the event. I never walk into an event EXPECTING to have sex - that is the most sure-fire way you're going to feel frustrated and angry and do/say something stupid. Like... standing around with your dick out and propositioning every gal who walks by... "YES, I'VE ACTUALLY SEEN THIS!!" Be friendly. Be open & welcoming... (sitting by yourself in a corner and not talking to anyone isn't going to be perceived as "friendly or wanting company"). Talk to people. Don't just interact with those people who immediately make you horny - talk to EVERYONE and be a good person. (Even someone whom you weren't initially attracted to can turn out to be someone who'll blow your mind once ya get together) Don't judge books by their covers. Know that *most* of the people you're going to meet aren't necessarily "Ken & Barbie"-types.... and be comfortable with that. Since you're in your 20's ... most of the people you'll meet at events are going to be older than you. (Are you comfortable with that?) I've been doing this for more than ten years... and I've established some GREAT friendships with some of the folk I've met throughout the years. We've become friends ... and sometimes we get together & have sex. But the friendship is the core of my relationship with them. Now... this is just how *I've* done it. This certainly isn't the only way. Also... how much experience have you had with non-monogamous dating? (A *lot* of younger folk have never done this... they jump from one monogamous relationship to the next (serial-monogamy) and immediately cast all their eggs into a single-basket with each dating experience) This is a whole different topic / discussion which I could spend HOURS ranting about... so instead of hijacking this thread, I'll just say... it's something to think about.