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VegasLee is absolutely correct. I'm reminded of a thread from last year that went on for something like 27 pages. The couple in question was told they were being stupid, over and over again. Nobody thought what they were doing was smart, and everyone thought it was going to end in disaster. Those of you who might remember; it was the couple that the wife was going to play solo with a guy half her age to 'educate' him about sex. That ended in absolute disaster, and their young child got caught squarely in the crosshairs. Stupid, stupid, stupid. Look... Yes, you DO want to spoil the fun. Good grief, when my wife is enjoying it WAAAAAAAY too much I'm tickled pink! Woohoo!!! FANTASTIC! For you, your wife enjoying it is a threat. You are too insecure for this lifestyle. You have serious control and jealousy issues and don't seem to have an ability to recognize them, or to read and understand the fantastic advice that's been given to you already. There's no way in hell I'd play with your wife, even if she was the most fantastic woman the world has ever seen. I'd forever being terrified of helping her enjoy it "too much" and what your insane reaction to it might be. You're a 50mt hydrogen dramabomb waiting to go off. If you put on your profile "Husband has issues with his wife enjoying swinging too much", nobody would ever want to meet with you. What the hell are you in the lifestyle for? It's who you are? Like hell it is. Your desires, intentions, and wants have as much to do with swinging as snow has to do with Somalia. You're trying to fit a square peg the size of Mars into a hole designed for a mouse to pass through. SWINGING IS NOT FOR YOU. Get over it. Sorry to be so ridiculously blunt; it is not my style to be so. This is just too much to be believed.

OMG JUST LET HER ENJOY HERSELF......LET GO!! It seems you cannot let go and you continue INSIST that she always be looking at YOU, paying attention TO YOU, touching YOU because YOU START feeling insecure or jealous because GOD FORBID she is having fun without you being directly innolved. Swinging is not just about YOU....it's about BOTH OF YOU. It seems to me that as soon as she looks like she is having fun, getting into it and letting herself enjoy it...YOU MUST INTERJECT as if to say "no, no, no.....we'll have none of that....LOOK AT ME...PAY ATTENTION TO ME!! My husband and I don't stare at each during a swap session. If he does not look at me the whole time or I at him NO ONE CARES! I enjoy watching him and so at times I do...other times I am so into what I am doing I don't look at him or make eye contact. All of the feelings you have are NORMAL.....BUT since you don't seem to be getting past YOUR jealousy problems....YOU SHOULD STOP SWINGING. I am not trying to be mean but if you are constantly expecting your wife to stop enjoying herself SO YOU FEEL BETTER then THIS IS NOT FOR YOU! That's okay, it's not for most people. If you continue to insist on swinging then you BOTH need to pay attention to each other during the entire session. You both need to be aware of each other's actions the entire time. This will just put a damper on things for everyone. She will constantly be like ooooh I'm too into this, better stop and look and play with hubby for a while before he gets upset....while the poor guy she is playing with is going WHAT? I do doubt though that your wife would be interjecting with YOU and what YOU are doing. I give.