I will try and be more clear.
You called yourself a gentleman. I just happen to say I prefer gentleman, and shy guys. Offering a womans perspective from the other side.
I then went on to use both types as a example.
From reading the posts, and knowing human nature, I could see where this might go, and just wanted to offer a differing perspective. There are a lot of really great men out there, that already feel a pressure to perform, or be a certain way.
I just want to give a nod of appreciation to the shy guys and the gentleman who are their sexy selves. So many times we see on a forum like this,..(Usually after a weekend has passed.) where someone is asking themselves and the forum, "What happened?" Some guy/gal SEEMED to be so into me, then we got to bed, and poof, things went so wrong.'.....
A lot of this would be eliminated if people didnt put on a performance beforehand.
As for you personally, just be true to you. If you think you want to step it up a notch, and it will excite you to try a new side of yourself, then go for it!