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Please, play nice people. This is suppose to be fun. Try living down here. There are more important things in life. Boudreaux & the Devil Boudreaux died and was on his way down to Hell. In anticipation, the Devil turned up the thermostat to make it extra warm for Boudreaux. When Boudreaux arrived, the Devil asked, "Hey Boudreaux, how do you like the heat down here?" Boudreaux says, "Mais, it's just fine. It reminds me of Bayou PonPon in July." That made the Devil mad. That night, he turned the thermostat up all the way it could go. Man it was hot! When Boudreaux woke up, the Devil asked him, "NOW how do you like it down here?" Boudreaux says, "Mais, it's fine. It reminds me of August on Bayou Lafourche." As you might expect, that made the Devil all the more mad. Well, that night, he turned the thermostat down all the way it could go! The whole place frosted over. Icicles started forming from the rafters. When Boudreaux woke up, the Devil asked him, "How you like it NOW, Boudreaux?" Boudreaux, shivering, through blue lips, says, "Mais cher, I'm one happy Cajun!" The Devil was infuriated! He yelled, "What do you mean you're one happy Cajun?!!" Boudreaux, still shivering says, "The Saints done won the Superbowl!"

Actually, that should be "grasp of". I could go on, too, but won't.

We haven't converted a vanilla couple yet, so my thoughts on this are just that - thoughts. I think vanilla hunters have a responsibility to their prey and that responsibility takes the form of respect for their relationship just as the hunter couple have respect for each other. We've known couples that pursue the "fresh meat" and describe a really fun excitement leading the vanilla couple into their first exciting swing encounter. The hunting and conversion can be done well, or it can be done poorly and when it's done poorly somebody gets hurt and this game gets a bad reputation. I do know that swinging with good hunters is a fun thing to do and I think that's because they have a well honed intuition and respect for others is as natural as breathing. The whole concept of swinging is based on "using" another couple for our benefit. And they, likewise "use" us. When the benefits balance, everyone goes home happy. When someone gets much more than they give, someone most likely feels abused.

Yeah, it was harsh, but not too harsh. The suggestion that couples are supposed to be prepared for a swinger couple to come on to them and have thought through the consequences of their actions is absurd at face value. It's also callous. "I don't care if we ruin your marriage, you should have thought about that before you gave in to temptation. Of course, we tempted you, but you should talked about this long ago!" It's complete BS. They didn't approach anyone. In this fictional scenario, Slevin approach them. But they were supposed to have made sure they were prepared for Slevin's advances so that they didn't ruin their marriage? That's idiotic. Are you prepared for your husband to walk in the door in a dress and say that he wants a sex change? I hope you are, otherwise if you don't handle it well it's your fault for not approaching it in the proper way! Stupid, right? Right! By the way, if you're going to throw out the grammar crap you should make sure your own house is in order. Your use of the ellipsis is totally out of control. The very phrase, "Sorry...my inner grammar picker won't be quiet tonight" is a shambles. You would use a comma there, never an ellipsis. Your use of an ellipsis instead of em dashes is also wrong. Also, by putting "swingers" and "vanillas" in quotes you are suggesting that they aren't really swingers or vanillas. Trust me, you don't want to correct me on grammar. I may not be the world's foremost authority, but you're not even close to being in my league. I make the occasional typo (many, actually), but I can see that I have a much better grasp on the rules of the English language than you do. For example, you need a comma after "basically" in the third paragraph. Another would be correct after "house." I literally could go on. EDIT: Now to be honest, that was a little harsh. Sorry, it's just that this whole "vanillas beware" attitude kind of pisses me off. And it disappoints me. I'd like to think we're better than that -- we're not animals who can't control ourselves. And we all know that when it comes to sex and alcohol humans don't always make the right decisions. But hey, if it takes preying on the weak to get laid, I suppose that's the tack some would take.