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First off, welcome to the board. It does sound like it may have been a bit too much to start off with. The main thing is all about being comfortable. To me, it sort of sounds like the guys were trying to drag your wife away, which is fine , but within reason. For us, if we go to a house party, club, etc. where we don't know anybody, we tend to stay fairly close to each other until we get a feel for the crowd and atmosphere. It's not because we're not comfortable, it's because we've had some bad experiences in the past (both of us) with being drug off and we have gotten pretty good about reading each other's body language. There is one thing that Jen and I have learned is to go with your gut feeling. If something doesn't feel right and you are uncomfortable, you should communicate and listen to that feeling. Here's an example if you don't mind. Jen and I were invited to a beach party one night. I took off from work, and we invited some friends to go with us. When we got to the beach party, we found that nothing had gone right with the setup...no fire rings for the fire...the spot wasn't really as secluded as the hosts thought it would be...just various other problems. We ended up leaving and going back to our friend's house where we had an even better time . The next day, we found out that the people at the beach had been cited for having a fire outside the firepit, drinking in public, various other offenses. Listen to your gut, or listen to your spouse's gut. I think that's the only real advice I could ever give anybody. Sure, it may be wrong from time to time and you'll hear about what a great party you missed, but for the most part, it's always right.