I also want to reassure your hubby... YOUR LACK OF MESSAGES IS IN NO WAY BECAUSE OF YOUR WEIGHT! I was worried about the same thing when we started our profile. We are a plus sized couple. I am over 200 pounds and he is over 300 pounds. It's about attitude and whether or not you think of yourself as sexy. We have tweaked our profile since, the more appealing your profile is, the more responses you get. Add photos, add a more detailed description of yourselves and what you are looking for. We have face pics but they are set for friends only, so people have to be in our network to view them. We have also found that by doing that and increasing our friends network it has also increased our views. Hope this helps!