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Alex you've mentioned before about leaving swinger sites open and what not on your computer. Why not bring her here. Let her read your thread. Let her read about others. Let her answer some of her own questions. She maybe trying to tell you she is ready but the way she is telling you is giving you the red flags and she may not even know it. Bring her here let her read the thread and set down and talk about it.

Hi, this is Petra. Once again, I have reached the totally opposite conclusion from the other recent posters. She wants to go ahead with it, but can't believe that you are OK with it and wants to give you every opportunity to back out, both as to the entire idea and any specific guy. Like me, she can't believe her luck and your love. Unlike me, she is hesitant to act on it. It may be good to take it slowly, but your hesitancy has gone on too long and is now getting in the way. Admit that you would like her to do it and tell her that it is up to her to choose when, where, with whom. You guys have made so many starts you are teasing yourselves as well as us here.

While I reread the whole thread a while ago, something struck me as interesting and important (emphasis is mine): I really think that for this whole thing to work out, you have to be present while the fantasy progresses and turns into reality. If you're there, she will see you get hot and bothered, and she will believe in her bones that you really want this. This will put her fears to rest and will start to enjoy her fantasies and realities. If she does it alone, she will start second-guessing herself during play, and will not believe you when she gets back home and tells you about it. That can eat her from within and things might get nasty. Guess again: it does not "go against the nature of every guy." Fantasizing about seeing your woman having sex is common to almost every guy I know, swingers or vanilla. What is uncommon is that the jealousy does not overwhelm that fantasy. We humans are a mixed bag of conflicting desires and emotions. The trick is in how you decide which desires and emotions will be played out.