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I've seen a few threads lately discussing single males directly or as part of the thread drift. Occasionally, I've seen people posting that single males are single for a reason, often with the implication that there's something wrong with them that swingers should be wary of. I think there's two sets, with overlap to each other, as to why a single male would be single and wanting to be in the lifestyle. There's definite reasons why being single would make them poor choices for couples to play with, definite reasons why they're single but the reason only applies to being in a long term relationship and has no effect on swinging, and overlap between the two. I have my own ideas about this, but wanted to see what others thought. So, what are some reasons a guy would be single... but the reason has no negative towards swinging but the reason is a negative for swinging the reason applies to both vanilla and swinging

Bbarnsworth, (As a previous "unicorn" I am going to refrain from certain comments and be a good girl here by moving on to your question.) Mr. Femnewb and I have a single male gentleman we enjoy as a swing partner in MFM. We feel honored to have him as a play partner not only for who he is as a person, but as you bring up, also for the reasons he is in swing. He has a full time job, a parent who has health issues requiring his attention, and is currently starting a two-owner business in an unrelated field. He is charming, intelligent, well read, has a variety of interests indoors and outdoors, and several good friends. He was in the lifestyle previously with his ex-fiancee for 5 years. He was introduced to the lifestyle by an older couple (MFMs) years ago. He decided he did not have the time in his schedule, and the energy, in his life right now to devote to building and maintaining a dating relationship with a woman. He does not want to potentially destroy any good female friendships he has had for years by turning them into FWBs just to have sex in his world. For him, it just made sense to pop back into swing to find sexual play time and connections. While we are privey to some of his personal life we are all careful to not let his vanilla world see the foundation of his "friendship" with us. He is one of those rare single males who does not flaunt his interest to the world...a bennie for us. And now having written this, I am not sure if this qualifies for your first category or your third.

Yes, agree with Vegas Lee. My wife was not interested, no how no way. But I did talk her into the topless pools in Vegas and she did enjoy hanging out at the topless pool at Mandalay Bay. And the next day she hung out at the topless pool wearing only a thong. The next year we went to Desire and hung out naked and enjoyed that environment (no swapping) then a year or so later a lifestyle club, then a profile on SLS, then soft swap, then full and finally the never of nevers she had her first girl-girl experience...and enjoyed herself. I agree with Vegas Lee, what's the rush? Enjoy the journey together. It has been a blast corrupting my gorgeous wife!