We have filmed each other all the time. All three of us enjoy it and don't have any problem 'performing' on camera. I (kari) like getting out old footage to watch when I masturbate. but we don't party with strangers so there isn't much chance of somebody spreading our stuff around too much. All the video has stayed in our house with a couple of exceptions. There are still pix on the web of us doing it but you can't identify us. and there are a few full frontal nude [nonsexual] photos of me on the web that show my face......but I wont say WHERE! ?
Besides, I don't think any of us would have any huge problems if something explicit went public. It's not like we're teachers or a church we're hiding things from. I know the owners of my company would not be bothered in the least they already know were in a threesome. Todd maybe yes, but even that seems like a stretch. As for our kids we are already pretty up front with them they would probably just find it embarrassing rather than traumatic.
I would have much more of an issue with my address/full name/personal data being put on the web than recognizable photos of me. The people that know me personally are not the ones I try to shield my identity from.