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New Year's Eve was a landmark moment for us. We played with two different couples. The first was a soft swap. The were super hot, and I think we were both feeling like we wanted more, but we were in a group room and it just didn't feel right to bring up making the leap. A little later, we decided to go back to our hotel with another couple we had met earlier in the night. They had already hooked up, too, and I asked the dude if he had another one in him. He said, give me a few minutes, and we'll be good to go. We actually never discussed full or soft swap. We thought it had come up in conversation before. They gave us a ride back to the hotel. My wife sat in the front with him while I was in the back with his wife. Once we got back to the hotel, it was just a pile of nakedness. Finally we came to a point where the other girl asked if we had any fantasies....I though for a second, looked at my wife, and said, "I really want to watch Mrs.S ride him....what do you think, Mrs.S." She said, "Yeah, honey, I'm game if you are!" Just like that, we were full swap! It was so natural, so comfortable I couldn't believe it. She and I can read each other so well....I knew that she was ready to take the leap and she just needed me to ask. I must say, it's like a new world has opened to us. Damn, it's good to be swinger!

Oh gosh... I've had this conversation with Dave a time or two. He has on occasion twisted off and thought with his "little Dave brain" more than his big Dave brain. I have no problem calling him on this, but, alas, he just loves sex. Luckily, it's a rare thing. Ok... I love sex, too... but... we've had to have that important conversation that he does not have my permission to volunteer me to meet a couple that night and have sex with them without talking with me first. He's also PMd with couples without my knowledge and before I know it, he's set up a meeting. He tells me about it after the fact, but again, he's just too damn excited. I say this in a loving way and I'm actually smiling as I type this: He's a He-whore and he knows it. I know with my honey, I have to remind him that we're a couple and we play as a couple. We do things together which mean we talk about meetings and we talk about these potential couples together. He does the basic work of looking and talking with them, but he's supposed to be telling me about these wonderful people before setting up dates, ideas, etc. He knows that, but gets carried away once in a while. There was a couple that we met last month. He was the PMer and talked with her/him. I had no idea they even existed for a week or so. Between the three of them, they'd already kinda set up a play date. Right before we left to go meet, I told him to please not count his chickens because I hadn't even talked to them, although I did see a picture of them. I wasn't sure I'd even be attracted to either one of them. Great thing for all four of us, we hit it off immediately. He's lived and learned. Just takes some real communication and reminding once in a while that I'm with part of the couple.

Sexcupid gave you some really good advice. You need to make sure your hubby knows that you ARE interested, but you have some concerns. And remember, men are not typically good at sharing/dealing with their feelings. So making sure they are really listening and understand what you're saying is important. It's important for women to do that too, since we don't always hear what our men are really saying. Hopefully, ya'll can sort things out and figure out where to go from here. =)