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I hate to break it to you Rock, but disagreeing with people is not what is causing you to ruffle feathers so often. People disagree often on various topics in this forum, without raising the ire of others. I am not trying to be critical here, just giving you a perspective I don't think you see. First, you got off on the wrong foot from day one with some pretty negative views of the LS. People have long memories, so, for a while at least, everything you post is going to be viewed with some skepticism. Second, was your 180 degree turn into the LS. Turning from being so critical to jumping in with both feet so quickly seems like an odd transition. Maybe even a bit hypocritical, particularly since your old bias occasionally shows through in your post. Third, there are times in your post that it appears that you really don't get the LS. For example, your earlier post in this thread about things being equal so everyone gets to have the same amount of pleasure. That just runs against the grain for most of us. We get as much or more pleasure knowing our spouses/SO's are getting great pleasure. And finally, as with your initial post in this thread, your tone and phraseology often carries a passive aggressive vibe. For example "Now Ms. H , is the Mister going to have 4 Ladies at once? Would you be Okay with him having them over a period of a couple of nights?" TO me, and I would suspect some others, that question smacks of an accusatory tone and seems to be attempting to show that the OP is unfair in that she wants gang bangs but is not willing to grant her SO the same degree of play privilege. Nothing of that nature was even even hinted at until your post, so it came out of the blue. There are a great many very intelligent people on this forum that read as much into how things are said, or even what is not said, as they do what you write. That just comes from their experience of years of communication and attention to detail. If you would be willing to listen to some advice, trying reading your own post before you hit send, and look at it from others perspective as well. Don't impose your negative experience/bias/thoughts on other peoples situations. If you do apply your experiences to other peoples post and questions, make sure that it is pertinent to the conversation and done in a way that is helpful, and not coming out of left field like it seemed to in your first post to this thread. This is free advice, so take it for what its worth. But I hope you can see it as someone trying to give you some sound advice rather than attack you, because that is how it is meant.

If you are waiting to have your questions answered completely before progressing further into the relationship, you may never get any further than you are now. After all, She has assured you that nothing like this will ever happen again and has apologized profusely. What is the point of rehashing this over and over. Wouldn't it be better to learn what you can from it and move forward?

I wonder what this writer described as being judgmental. Believe me, I have many flaws, and if someone wanted to pass because of that, so be it... There are others who don't mind them. We don't think it's judgmental to pass on another couple. Now, the other couple may take it that we're being judgmental, while we see it as our preference. My preference is to have someone who will kiss during sex/foreplay. It's not judgmental to pass on them because I can't (or don't) want to forgo one of my favorite things. My preference is for someone to have teeth. It's not judgmental to pass on someone with one tooth. It's my preference they have more than ten. The "judgment" word seems to be thrown around when you can't empathize with the other person. "They don't want me because I have three eyes. They're being judgmental." No, it my preference that you have less than three. Did I answer this question?