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The date for massage has been set, there has been hours of Im's between wife and buddy, me and my buddy as well as between wife and I. Wife and him the last to days had several hours hot teasing chat about length of massage, what parts she would like focused on, during that part of conversation wife outright told him she enjoys her tits and nipples massaged and and extra time she be spent on her upper thighs and CLIT she told him. he replied what if he gets aroused would she help him out, she teasingly replied what do you have in mind. he said maybe oral favor or more, that teasing has gone back and forth for 2 days as well as wife sending him and me a few erotic pics by text and one she sent him and I was of her pussy so wet from the chat they were having it looked as if she had just been fucked. That was the first naked pics she has ever sent to anyone except me. Then yesterday afternoon during the chat between them she just said do you want to fuck me and he said yes. She said good she was hooping that he would. all this has made wife so much more open to describing her fantasy's and the sex between her and i has been awesome, Last night we had some free time without kids and invited him over for dinner and just to hang out, he told us he had to help a family member but would try and get over for a drink but was unsure of the time, when i got home from work wife instructed me i should help tidy up the house,(She keeps house spotless) I said the house is spotless what do you want me to do her only request was change the sheets on our bed, I said why, she played it a little and I can right out and said do you want to take his cock for a ride tonight, she replied well maybe, I came back with you do want him to fuck you hard tonight, she said yeah and went on to say how hot it would be to have us both take her to the bed and fuck her.

Years prior to my wife and I considering swinging, we often had debates/discussion about my having been briefly involved in a polyamorous triad in the year before I met her. She had rather strong opinions that it was wrong, and that the married couple had broken their vows, and I was wrong for aiding them in doing that. My response to that was that no cheating happened, everybody knew and approved of what was going on, and no promises were broken...even marital vows...that they (the couple) had not previously agreed were no longer valid. Life isn't set in stone. A decision you make when your 25 doesn't mean you have to be chained to that decision for the rest of your life (in this case a vow of sexual monogamy) if you both agree to change that decision. Also, agreeing to have sex with others does not have to mean you are somehow despoiling your marriage. For many swinging couples, it's rather the opposite. It can add so much to a marriage that a "vanilla" marriage will never be able to experience. Marriage is an institution. But, as with any institution you are not being forced to partake of an external definition of what that institution is. If you enter a monastery, taking vows of celibacy, and later decide to leave the monastery...have you broken the institution? No, you've decided the definition of that institution given to you is one that does not work for you anymore. You are not chained to that institution. There are many ways in which you can serve a purpose that while initially might be embodied in one institution, you find at a later juncture does not have all the answers for you. Marriage is such an institution. More; marriage is not a monolithic definition that applies in absolute rigidity across all cultures, all times, all people. The very definition of marriage is highly subjective, viewing through those lenses. What is YOUR definition of marriage? That's the most important question. Not someone else's idea of the definition, or some church, group, culture, etc. Figure out your own definition. It is your life, and only your life. Nobody else should get to dictate to you in what manner you choose to express, enjoy, and revel in your marriage. For my wife and I, our definition is our unending commitment of love, of souls, of family, of life to each other. Nobody can hold a candle to that. Whether someone is enjoying a lunch time conversation with my wife or is having sex with her without my being there (but of course in the know), they can not violate our marriage, and what it means to us.