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Unless you specifically ask for it they don't normally test for HSV and i think if they did that the number of people with it would be a lot higher.

Making judgments is perfectly normal and acceptable in my mind depending on what you are judging, for what purpose and how you act toward people. I think it is perfectly fine to decide who you want to have sex with based on looks, personality, manners and chemistry. I think it is fine to decide not to associate with someone based on moral conflicts, illegal or unethical behavior or their bigoted attitudes. I do not think it is acceptable to treat people unfairly or infringe on their rights based on their race, gender, religion etc. Unfortunately, too may people assume that if you don't care for them, it is based on one of those characteristics rather than the fact they are crude, rude or just flat out jerks. I guess it is easier to explain away rejection by attributing it to the worst part of the other persons nature, rather than realizing it may be something that makes them unappealing or even they are simple not what the person is looking for. As for swinging, I have no right to anyone's body nor they to mine. So if one of us decides that we are just not interested, for what ever reason, then that is just how it goes, regardless how petty or "judgmental" the rejected party thinks it may be. Why waste time being upset about it.

This is where swingers are poorly informed and in some denial. HSV-2 infects about 25% of all adults. It is likely a higher percentage in swingers. HSV-1 infects close to 60% of adults. Taken together herpes is the rule among adults, not the exception. That you haven't had an outbreak in years suggests your body has sequestered the virus and you are not infectious. Sure there is always a theoretical possibility of you being infectious, but a very small one. We've met more than one couple with cold sores visible and obviously infectious. No one should play when sores are present. The question of whether to announce your dormant infection is not an easy one. Most of the people you will play with have either HSV-1 or 2. Most of them don't know it. So should you be the one to announce you have it when most people do also? Only you can decide.