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Look for P’s version in our Blog P and I really haven’t been involved in the Lifestyle for very long. Through the years we had often fantasized about having other people involved in our sex lives, and decided to act upon it. We have had many discussions and many “growing pains” on this trip. We both decided it is what we want to do, but unlike my lovely free spirit, I still held some reservations. So, here I find myself, after 36 years of a monogamous relationship, sitting in a two bedroom hotel suite with the love of my life, about to take that huge first step. My pulse was racing through the roof. For years, traveling extensively, having many opportunities presented to me, and through all that, I had remained sexually active with only one person. I found it interesting that while it was now second nature to “just say no”, here I am about to say “Yes”! I’m about to meet two people that I had never seen, and barely spoken with. P and Mr. Playmate had spent a fair amount of time getting to know each other – on the phone, chatting, and via email. I, on the other hand, had a brief 10 minute conversation with the woman standing in front of me. Before I knew it, P and Mr. were hugging and kissing, and Mrs. poured herself something to drink, and we walked to the couch to sit and talk. I honestly did not know P and Mr. had left the main living area until I realized I was hearing the very familiar sounds of P enjoying herself. We talked for a bit of time (I couldn’t tell you how long) and I heard giggling from the other room. P comes out, followed by Mr., kneels down in front of me and says “We are going to get this party started”. She unbuckled my pants, pulled them down looked at Mrs. and said “you kiss him while I do this” and proceeded to give me a blow job. Mrs. leaned over and we gently, then more aggressively, kissed. How surreal is this? My wife giving me one of her best talents, Mr. behind her with some encouraging touches in intimate places, and a woman I had just met kissing me deeply. Well alrighty then, let’s go! P and Mr. went back to their room, and Mrs. and I went to ours. She walked over and started unbuttoning my shirt, then removed her blouse. We both finished undressing ourselves, and for the first time in a long time, I found a warm, naked, and very much alive female in my arms. Our journey was very slow and careful with much touching, kissing, and talking. We listened to the wonderful sounds coming from the other room (P has always been very vocal) and Mrs. looked at me and said “Would you like to watch?” Well that was NOT what I expected, and I made it clear that it would be selfish of me. She looked me straight in the eyes, smiled and said “C’Mon, let’s go watch. You and I have all night.” Wow, this could definitely get interesting… We quietly walked to the other room where P was displaying her oral talents on an appreciative Mr. Playmate. P and I had talked in the past, wondering if jealously would rear its head. The short answer – this was HOT! Mrs. and I again grinned at each other and she asked me if I wanted to f*@k her while she was doing that. Ok, twist my arm…. A minute or two of feeling my lovely wife pulsing around me was almost more than I could take, so I withdrew and Mrs. and I went back to our room. We kissed, we hugged, we licked, and we cuddled. The whole time, smiling, giggling, and talking. Then things got serious… To make a long story short, we shared ourselves with each other in many ways; orally, missionary, her on top, me on top. I shared all these things with someone other than the love of my life. And through the entire evening, we could sit back, holding each other, talking, laughing….who knew sex could be such good company? After around five hours or so, with much fun in between, both Mr. Playmate and I went back to our own rooms to be with our spouses. P and I lay in bed and talked about the experience, cuddled, and dozed off. The next morning we both awoke early, talked some more about the previous night, and enjoyed some wonderful wake up sex. We puttered around the room, doing our best not to wake our companions. After they awoke, we sat and shared coffee, conversations, and wide smiles. This beautiful, sexy couple had made our first full experience an absolute dream. In conversation with P afterward, we both discovered that Mr. and Mrs. had very seriously made sure this is what we both wanted prior to going beyond a soft swap scenario. They were kind and considerate and I truly hope we are able to get together again soon. If you are out there Mr. and Mrs. Playmate, all I can offer is a heartfelt THANK YOU!!! J of PnJDay

No I really didn't have an expectation on number of past partners because of a couple of reasons that sort of build on each other. First: I believe many single people (not just guys, because women do it to), including myself, go thru what politically correct people want to refer to as promiscuous times as we live life where we meet those hot people (guys or girls or both depending on preference) that we are attracted to. So I would be a Hypocrit to judge my wife by putting a number on acceptable partners, for something I've done myself as a single person. Depending on each individual's set of standards that each of us actually live by, many times individuals will just hop from bed to bed, because they are single and there is no one to which they are committed. It doesn't mean the individuals are necessarily sleeping with just everyone. It doesn't mean they didn't take safety precautions either. It just may be that individual was in sync with more partners in a given period of time than the number of partners some other people may find acceptable, based on the other peoples standards (which by the way last time I checked there are over 6 billion people on the planet, and I'm guessing here but there are probably also 6 billion sets of standards on this issue of "who to sleep with and how many to sleep with"). Second: Society on average as a whole put's an acceptable behavior out on everything, eventhough it's not written down somewhere. Society or people in society as a whole (on average), tend to treat people differently based on those acceptable (or what they conculde as "unacceptable") behaviors, but it's not written down anywhere. What's acceptable is different for everyone. I'm sure there are times when the majority voices that a behavior is unacceptable, and some people that don't necessarily agree with just agree to avoid being set as an outcast or judged by the majority. Then, when the majority is not around, they engage in the behavior anyway. So based on people knowing increased number of sexual partners is many times viewed as unacceptable by society as a whole on average, you won't hear about the majority of people that go through the promiscuous times in their lives. As a result of this situation, when one does actually tell the truth about the number of partners it oftens sounds above average or bad to some that may believe the individual has more sex partners in their life than is acceptable to the other individual's standards. Now, I can't help but ask myself, when faced with being judged by one that an individual wants to spend the rest of their life with are they going to ask him or herself? "What is society's impression of what is an acceptable number of sexual partners and are they going to adjust it to attain happiness?" and "If they do adjust it (or lie), who's gonna know, after all it's not on record somewhere unless they had a kid with someone or legal proceedings occurred?" My Conculsion: Some can say having a certain number of sexual partners is irresponsible or immoral (or whatever term you want to use), but I say compared to who's standards or who's morals? Because, I don't think people on average when in the presence of the majority (or if they think the majority may find out) are honest about the number of past sexual partners out of fear of being judged. So even if a potential partner is honest in saying for example 10, whats to say that I could find somewhat close to accurate information on what others do if the majority is not being being honest. The average could be 5, if it were possisble to get accurate information, then the majority or people that buy into the "accuracy" of the information or the majority of society on average may actually judge me. But the average could be 25 (I know it sounds high, but how do you know), then you may be think well is this experienced enough? Do they do things I like? Are they going to be a prude in comparison to me? Do they not like sex? To the point: To judge a potential mate on number of sexual partners, may not be something I could do with a clear concience. I don't know what I could compare it to other than my own experiences and what society says is acceptable (which I think what is acceptale in society is not what actually goes on behind closed doors in individuals real lives). I know this is a long answer to a short question, but simply put, unless they were cheating on their spouse (which swinging is absolutley not), the answer to putting a number of sexual partners limit from the past on your potential spouse/wife for me is "no I can't do that."