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We both revel in watching the pleasure our partner is having, what a wonderful gift to be able to bestow to the person you love!!! Neither of us can quite comprehend anyone not wanting their partner to have the ultimate in sensual/sexual experience and pleasure!!! The "lifestyle" has only strengthened the bond we have, adding to the respect, trust and security in our relationship. Jealousy and insecurity are wasted emotions that have no place in a healthy relationship, let alone the lifestyle. Separating sex from love and good communication go a long way towards banishing those fears!

Like many women Jo was quite worried about how she would react the first time she saw Brian with another woman. Would she be jealous? Would he like the other woman more than he liked her? Would she be upset when she realised how much they were enjoying each other? How would she react when they had orgasms? This was over 30 years ago. As it turned out her fears were completely unfounded. Watching Brian mount another woman and slide his cock inside her was an incredibly erotic and exciting moment for Jo. She was transfixed as she watched Brian thrusting in and out of her pussy and she could not believe the look on Brian's face when he was cumming. Since then of course Jo has watched Brian with many other women (and vice versa of course) and never tires of it. It is as much a turn on for her now as it was all those years ago.

It's a common and valid question, and this is a great place to ask. I didn't really have that worry because I was my hubby's first lover and wanted him to have the chance to experience sex with another woman. I found that what turned me on wasn't so much seeing him with her, but hearing her noises and knowing he was pleasing her. After all, I know how good what he's doing feels to me. If you already have good communication with your husband, you're on the right track. It is SO important to be able to discuss anything you're thinking and/or feeling with your partner. If thoughts of having sex with others (or in front of others, or watching others) turns you on, then by all means consider exploring the lifestyle a bit further. Talk about what things excite you and what doesn't. Talk about how you think you'll feel about having sex with others and seeing each other do the same. Talk about what guidelines or rules you think you should have to keep each of you and your marriage safe. Peruse this site, read any forums that interest you, and talk some more. When/if you feel your ready, you can try going to a club or a meet and greet . . . Just see what's out there, and observe. Or you could jump in feet first (like Mr. Sweet and I did)! Either way, just proceed at whatever pace you're both comfortable, and have FUN. =)