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This is a very good question, and one we discussed in detail when we comtemplated becoming involved in the lifestyle. We agreed that we couldn't get into swinging unless we believed in it and felt no guilt about it; this is the case. We know that if someone tells us they know we are swingers, we won't hide that fact. Great moments in life often arrive through taking risks. Being swingers is a risk. Even before we swung the discussions Mr LM and I have had, because of our decision to swing, has made us closer. There is more to swinging than sex. This is why we swing. Because my husband is more high profile than most isn't going to stop us from swinging. This isn't an impulsive decision for us. We have given it great thought and know we want to add this new dimension to our relationship. We are using caution now that we didn't use at the start. Afterall, this thread is titled Newbie Mistakes, and I am trying to share what I felt was our biggest first mistake and how I might have done things differently then--and maybe now--by using a "club name." I don't believe we will ever go to a local club again misterbates, but when we did then, I wish we would have used a "club name." Should we visit a club when we travel out of state no one will know us and I'm sure we will feel very comfortable using our real first names. LM

our first mistake was meeting and playing with a couple that niether of us were really attracted to sexually. We really liked them as people but not as playmates. Our worst mistake was a couple months ago..and nope not a newbie then..lol I have been played by so many men pretending to be single females that when I got an email from a female I went to yahoo to chatt and IT sounded so much like a man I told them...Look prove to me you are female, I am home right now here is my phone number CALL ME! Within a couple days I was getting calls (and my boys were getting calls!) from perverts saying I had promised to do this that or whatever to them in a chatt room. Now these people didnt care when my kids answered the phone and told them I promised to do certain things! I had to change my phone number!! I will never give out my house number again unless I know you and have played more than one time. We never lie about our names but usually dont give out last names till we know you better. If I find out someone has lied about what their name is ...they get a bubye!!

You Lie about your names?!?!?...and i suppose you expect people to have sex with you and be honest about themselves??...hmm.."yea i dont have to tell em about my herpes..after all they lie about their name"....that is a great way to think.....another example of why we are so disgusted with swingers and swinging.......