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Big Nikki here. I think Learning has it right: wait a year (or two). Yes age matters, both for safe fertility and for the parents to be robust enough to good vigorous child-raisers. But you don't want to be too young -- parents, I think, should have a nice handful of years to relish adult life before children. And a relationship should best have some mileage on it too. Yes, younger is better for childbearing. But would one year or two years matter as much as a year or two of your relationship settling in? Ask yourself that question, and I think your answer, either way, will guide you well. -- Big Nikki PS: John and I are busy doing the nasty (scratch that, doing the nice) to make our first.

Big rock, you are going to do what you are going to do. Here's my advice: don't do it yet. Having a baby is complex, we just had our 1st and I am 35 years old, been married to a wonderful husband and it's still hard. You all should be enjoying your new relationship status. See where you are in a year. Hell, I wouldn't even say anything different to a regular vanilla couple. The other being a poly, I've had quite the experiences lately of working with children with parents who are poly. Can I be frank that it is so challenging for the kids, so if you do heavily research it so you can do it right and they can turn out to be healthy. Think about the baby and what it needs. Just because someone is eager to have a child doesn't mean that they should.