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Mrs. H here... I like the way you put that. Mr. H and I have what we call "us" and "the other us"...but in the end...it is always about us, as well. If Mr. H wanted to call it quits, I would quit in a second, never look back, and not miss it at all. I don't need to 'swing'. I do it because it is something we do together to enhance our sexual relationship. If swinging no longer appealed to Mr. H for whatever reason, then it would hold no appeal for me. Even in everyday situations, I have found it impossible for me to really enjoy myself if I know he is not enjoying himself. I suppose,after all of these years, we are just that tightly interwoven...

You might want to actually have a candid debrief with your wife. You mention communicating with Unicorn, but why haven't you directly communicated with the person who actually matters (your wife)? It seems like this is a new thing for you guys, so you can't expect her "actions and attitude" to give you all of the information you need. And, I agree with the other responses...lay off communicating with Unicorn about this; she is your wife's friend and coworker, your wife is more than competent to deal with both you (that is, if you are candid with her) and Unicorn.