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Getting hung up on "LABELS" in the lifestyle leads to misconception. There isn;t a class for " I love men but adore women occasionally" I'm voting for a category called Bi Playful....I like women BUT and thats a HUGE BUT I never consider the possibilities between her and I before we play. I do not seek out Bi or straight couples. I seek couples that appear to be a good match between us. I don't walk down the street and ever think "boy I'd like to do her" I never size a women up based on what I PREFER in a women and frankly don't give a rats ass if she an I ever interact sexually. That being said Mr Sav couldn't careless if I am Bi ,Bi friendly, Bi Playful or completely straight. His fantasy date doesn't necessarily include us girls going to town. As a matter of fact we NEVER seek or play with couples who state that as their primary interest.Labels are foolish and misleading but on sites such as this you pick a "label" deemed on what SEEMS appropriate. It's been said if you won't go down on a women you're still curious, if you've had more than one encounter your Bi, if you prefer men and women equally your Bi, if you and your partner only allow girl girl shes isn't Bi shes a lesbian ......seriously a confusing mess until you talk to each person as an individual. I've read so many "rules" on this terminology and frankly I am still confused. I am not longer curious...I enjoy playing with women occasionally But could not and would not ever consider a relationship with a female, would not and have no interest in strictly girl girl play and I do not share equal preference for women and men.......I LOVE men, the shape, feel and smell of them. I adore women and when the mood is right thoroughly enjoy all aspects of our play but still require, want and need a man. I've flipflopped between my status as Bi and Bi curious never quite sure what Label is appropriate. It is all based on the interrupter and without reading our profile the reader is left clueless and sometimes scared"Oh my god shes Bi and will attack me". My suggestion to those STRAIGHT people is to thoroughly read profiles, looks at photos provided, look for clues that this couples promary interest is girl/girl and ask questions of people you might be interested and IGNORE the label provided. You'd be pleasantly surprised to learn that 70 % of our play with other couples involved no girl /girl for many reasons but all our experiences have left us and them happy ( we assume) One of my sons is GAY, he's had sex with women so should if he was on this site should he be listed as Bi ....hell no he's gay pure and simple. My point is that people need to be very careful about labeling others, until you ask questions you will never know their true status or the reason behind the posted status. Worse than the difficulties I struggle with is the whole aspect of men and their status. What a stigma they carry for being so bold as to list Bi or curious. Mr Sav is straight no shadow of a doubt and no curiosities but as the mother of a gay son I completely sympathize with the labeling , judging and discomfort of other people. What I do know is that sexuality isn't contagious, people aren't going to force their preference on you if you're straight and noone is going to make you play bi if your preference is otherwise....as a matter of fact if your profile is clearly written the subject won't even come up. Frankly for anyone one of you who claims your wife is 100% straight but doesn't mind what a women DOES TO HER I'd re-evalutate that label. A 100% straight women isn't 100% sraight if she willing takes sexual pleasure from a woman but refuses to give in return that label is" selfish "!!!!!. For instance if you as the male had no issues with some guy fondling you and sucking your cock who you still consider that "straight behavior" just because you chose to not return the pleasure????? Don't think so. If you part take in 3somes with a 3rd male partner and have ANY contact without pause or concern how do you label that without others thinking your gay? My godness your penises were touching !!!! I read a post on another sight on 3 way postions and one gentleman posted he loved to go down on his wife while another was having sex with her......yup you got it ...backlash that he MUST be gay because some other mans Balls might be brushing his forehead at the same time. We define ourselves how we are comfortable letting see us when in fact they are grey areas we ourselves can not define. Labels are deceiving and although we all (lets hope) try to post with honesty our actions are misinterupted by many. Just some food for thought. Until we have more options to "define " ourselves publicly on our profiles to others I'll be flipflopping my status between BI and Bi curious and will continue to hope they're provide a label called Bi Playful. I am Bi Playful, I adore woman occasionally but will always want and desire a man. I can do wothout a womens touch but never without a mans. Mrs Sav