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  1. 1 point
    There is a lot of idiocy with emotions in the lifestyle. We try to warn people about it but they always know better, and based on a few posters I've watched go down this path who suddenly 'disappear' I'd not be surprised if large marriage troubles ensued. On the flip side I've had 2 friends get divorced recently and one seems to be on the verge and none of them were swingers. None of those who I know are swingers have gotten divorced. The question is if swinging increases your chance of divorce over all and without real data (something I doubt we will ever get) we can't say for sure.
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    I completely agree with this. Since Feb. of this year, there have been 4 marriage breakups at the club that David and I go to. 3 of them were long term (25, 21, and 15 years) and the other was still relatively new (2 years). All of them were affected by what VegasLee has stated here. I'm sure that this isn't the only thing that destroyed these marriages, but it caused the cracks that were already in the relationship to become doors that others were easily able to walk through. Instead of stepping away from the LS to work on their marriages and reconnect with each other, they found it easier to find comfort and affection with someone else. Their communication with each other broke down which caused a breakdown of their marriages. Being someone who doesn't participate, I'm able to observe people and I can say from an outsiders point of view that yes, if you have a solid marriage, swinging will do nothing but bring added pleasure to it, but if you have the smallest problem, it can blow up in your face. I'm just sad that in all but one case, there are children involved, not to mention threats by one of the couples to "out" each other in court and name names in the process.
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    Being how many people try to fix marriage problems by swinging, and her job is to talk to people with failing marriages shes suffering from correlation equal causation. If all you saw of sport were the injuries you would assume that sports are all horrible and should be banned. All she sees are the injuries.
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    I'm calling the bullshit rule on him. No man is so like an animal that he can't stop what he is doing. The answer is: no, you should not have to watch him like a hawk to make sure he isn't violating your rules. If he is pushing it, it is just proof that he is not emotionally mature enough to swing or have any kind of open relationship. It also shows that he more in it for his personal benefit and pleasure than yours or both of yours as a couple. My advice it to stop swinging until he can grow-up and realize that it isn't about him, it's about both of you. Right now he's acting like it's all about him.
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