Our first swinging experiences were separate rooms because I was too jealous to see Fi with another guy. She has let me go solo and let me do MMF trios with other couples. In return when she has asked I have let her go solo with men that I know.
I still have work to do to get over the unfairness of the jealousy and resentfulness I feel when she goes solo. I have to keep reminding myself that she gets out of it the same things I do: it's fun, it makes a change.
I am getting better. I understand it all intellectually, it's just that my feelings don't match up with what I know is right and fair!
Fiona is a born swinger, she has no hang-ups, she has great fun and doesn't get emotionally involved.
I over-think things...