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Absolutely not. I have never loved any woman that I have "swung" with. I have liked a few of them quite a bit and occassionally developed friendships, but love? No. The point is that love is the fulfillment of the law - i.e. "love your neighbor as you love yourself." In other words, I am not doing what I am doing out maliciousness or with any ill motivation. I am not "coveting" my neighbors wife, because I have no intention of stealing her away. Further, I try to be very mindful of the "state of the union" of the couples we play with - are they solid? Are they in this for the right reasons? (Tough to know for sure, but certainly worth paying attention to) I am not commiting "adultery", because everything is done within the boundaries and agreements that my wife and I have. And you'd be amazed how many times we have "lost" a play night because we have ended up talking to new couples about the lifestyle, marriage, communication, rules, boundaries, etc. "Loving your neighbor" doesn't mean "boning them." It means being sensitive to them - and realizing that they are not just some random body that you bumped into - they have to take the experience, good or bad, home with them. And it will be a part of them and their marriage - just as it will be a part of us. C.S. Lewis said it this way - and I am paraphrasing because I am too lazy to walk to the bookshelf - "If you know what hurts you, you know what hurts others." While this advice doesn't work for sociopaths, it is a great guideline to those of us who want swinging to be enriching - to ourselves and our playmates. Spoomonkey