Cheating is subjective but that aside I wasn't asking for a moral judgment on my relationship with my wife here so much as asking about my relationship with this other couple, signs that they may be giving off about wanting to play, etc.
This thread has turned into a potential cheaters bash-fest! If I just wanted to cheat, I could have done so many times since we've been together. That's not what this is!! I just wanna play with this couple from time to time, if they're game that is. It's just sex - nothing more. I'm not looking to cheat on an emotional, romantic level.
Also, I find it a bit ironic that a group of people most of whom lie about their true selves to satisfy their sexual needs and to maintain protection from potentially judgmental communities would judge me for merely contemplating having a threesome to satisfy my sexual needs without informing my immediate community (i.e. my wife) - that's just hypocritical imho
Focus, people