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Sorry, you got me wrong. I am a simple house wife. I am not here to give you any paid advice. A good communication between a couple is most important. In addition to it mutual respect, trust and openness is the key to achieving it. To begin when my hubby dropped the idea the very first time I was furious and thought that he is a pervert. He after knowing my reaction withdrew and changed the subject. However, I think since he wanted it to happen he never gave up, although he never brought this up verbally. Probably he realised that he had been rash in proposing it to me without preparing me mentally for it. I think he is a very clever guy. I think he embarked on a planned move, step by step We have uninhibited love for each other, but nothing went beyond the usual sexual activity. My hubby once read out to me an erotic sex story from the net and we both liked it, soon enough we were reading every day a lots of them and discussing them. Then one night my hubby read out a swinger story ‘Swingers by chance’. It was so erotic that I could not hide my excitement and we had wild sex. Thereafter we would often sit in the bed with a glass of wine and look for interesting stuff to read. What I never realised was that it was gradually breaking down all the barriers in my mind. Later, we switched over to fantasies and role playing. Going further my hubby started showing me some swinger websites including this one. It created a lot of curiosity in my mind. Often, after he left for office, I would open this and some other related website and read a lot of material on different subjects. The more I read the more curious I became. What I never realised was that when I am surfing it creates a history of the websites visited. I am sure my hubby must be going thru the history and knowing what I was surfing. Then one night while reading stories when I was in a heightened state of excitement, he opened a swinger website with a lot of personal ads with photos. We went through them and discussed different couples. Then he suggested that why not we try it out with another couple. This time my response was again ‘No’ but I think it was not strong enough, which he must have realised. Soon enough we were looking for a suitable couple and considered it better to have it with a known couple. We shortlisted a couple from our acquaintances but the biggest problem was how to propose. It took us a lot of planning over a period of almost seven months to get them involved and make it happen. Anyway that is another long storey and not relevant at this stage I do hope this will help you in breaking the barrier with your wife Best of luck

We're somewhat embarrassed to say we use Craigslist due to its reputation, although we defend it fairly vehemently (Example!). We thought that the best thing we could do is outline what helps us determine who is real and who is not, while debunking some common misconceptions. Despite how savvy we think we are, we still get it wrong some of the time though so, feel free to take this with a bit of caution. There are plenty of posts discussing peoples' opinion about Craigslist. This is not one of them A post on CL is a lot like an ad, except you have to renew it if you plan on continuing to use CL as a meet resource. We'd love to hear other pointers on how to navigate the CL environment. Finally, we use CL to find other couples only. Our experiences may not apply to other areas of Craigslist. We do not define ads as fake or real, they are all real. There are no 'bots' on Craigslist, every respondent to your ad and ever ad was created by a human being. Your challenge lies within determining whether or not the poster or respondent is truthful about their intentions; not whether they are real or not. Red flags when viewing ads others have posted: 1. Pictures are 'thumbnail' sized, irregularly shaped, or of their genitalia only. 2. Pictures have copyright or blurred copyright/ownership tags on them. 3. There is too much emphasis on trying to prove the poster is real. For example: multiple mentions of the weather, whether or a local sports team has won or lost recently, asking respondents to add a word to the subject or their response. 4. Abundant use of lingo or stock ad. (Link to Swinger's Board Dictionary). Our definition of a stock ad is the following: "Wife recently changed her mind and we're looking for another couple for full swap. We're not Ken and Barbie and do not expect you to be either. Both DDF, non smokers and looking for the same. The weather is 63 degrees today and the Sox won! Put "some random word here" in your response so we know you're real!" The emphasis is on a one, two or three line ad with common terms and making a point to prove they are real. 5. Too much ambiguity. If you cannot say why they swing, describe how to they look (from a picture or description) or exactly what they are looking for, then their ad is too ambiguous. You should take this is as a sign they are not serious or not truthful. 6. Excessive white lines. If the post starts after 2 or 3+ blank lines, they have done a very sloppy job copying and pasting their ad to other city's sections. Determining if a respondent/poster is posting a fake ad/response 1. Images should be equally sized but you should take into consideration cropping if they are not sending unaltered photos. Images should be sent through email and be larger than 400kb. 2. If there is a clue in the photo to a preference from either party, casually ask them about it in a later email. Similarly, pay attention to whether or not their later answers match up with the information in their ad. For example: He is wearing boxers that say Ohio State University on them. Ask if he is a Buckeyes fan. 3. Simply verify they are who they say they are with a quick call. Both of you should be available at the time of the call, and if you prefer the same from the other couple, ask that they both be present. 4. If something is too good to be true, it probably is. An 11 inch penis is most likely not his. 5. Very quick reference to anal, double penetration, or excessive swinger activities should be a sign of either poor judgement or too much pornographic influence. 6. Requests to trade pictures of wives are always, without fail, false. If you're looking for another couple or person, you should be passing over these anyways. 7. Use of age appropriate terms. If someone is over 30, we do not expect 'lol' to be used after every other word. 8. If the poster refers to themselves too objectively, it is probably a single male trying to live out his fantasy. For example: "the male does x, or the female does y". Use of 'he' and 'she', to an extent, is acceptable! 9. If a respondent or poster quickly jumps to describing, in detail, what they want to see happen or what they'd like to do to you/your partner, etc., it is likely they are living our a fantasy. Positive signs the poster or respondent is truthful 1. Their post or response is detailed, descriptive and lengthy. 2. A picture is G (or X, but not hardcore) rated with both people clearly pictured. 3. They can speak accurately about a local swinger's club. 4. The respondent has CC'd his or her partner or does so in a later email. 5. Knowledge of the local area or lingo is helpful. This helps demonstrate an understanding of the area. Common Myths 1. There is no such thing as 'bots' responding to ads. Once you understand what you mean by 'bot', you'll understand why this is not a realistic concern. 2. Asking for a respondent to put a word in the title will prove the respondent is real. All posters are real, the question is whether or not they are truthful. Personal Notes 1. If you post an ad and it is very, very obvious you are truthful, at least half of the respondents will be real/truthful. Thoughtful ads that relate a quick impression of how long you've been swinging, who you are and what you are looking for, why you are looking for it especially with a link or mention of a paysite profile; will have equally truthful respondents. 2. Posting a picture does not tremendously help your cause if your ad is truthful and well thought out. Pictures are quick ways out of putting work into your ad. 3. A mention of 'No Single Males' in your ad will not deter single males. This requires patience over a quick tongue. 4. A 'pic collector' is someone whose goal it is to collect as many pictures as possible of yourself and your partner. Ask yourself, have the pictures you've sent given the other couple a reasonable expectation of your looks and physique? If so, feel free to voice your questions about their intentions. 5. Craigslist is the only resource for letting the area know you'll be at a bar, club, or restaurant and are looking for another couple or single person. Simply posting that you will be at X tonight and are looking for another couple can have very positive results. We've been using Craigslist for 5 years (off and on). If you can navigate the internet, you should not have much trouble with Craigslist ads Real Examples Section This is what a picture collector's post looks like: This is what a post that is non-truthful ad looks like: Another! This is a truthful ad (Can you see why?): Another!

Or as we like to put it... there's too much ass out there to worry about this piece.

To us, even if she may have been interested at one time, she like anyone can have a change of heart. Our advice would be sit down and talk about it with her, but if she says no, listen to her and her reasons, and then drop the subject. Some people think the lifestyle could be fun and think that their spouse would love to jump in and try it, but when they say no, they feel they need to convince their spouse to do it. If get into the lifestyle it should be a choice that you BOTH make together. Because if she does it because she feels pressured by you to do it, her heart really won't be in it, and she probably won't enjoy it, and also, it's a good way to destroy your marriage.

My wife and I both love to play outdoors. Just did it a couple of nights ago in fact. We were outside having some drinks and before you knew it, we were naked on the back porch. Love it!! There have also been many times where we would be driving on a trip and just pull over on a dirt road somewhere and get after it!! Good times.... Damn, I love that woman!