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Susan here-- In situations like this, the woman who is aroused by the sex is also aroused by the lying. We mistakenly think it's just part of a fantasy, but it's not. Their brain is giving them dopamine and adrenaline and it is one huge rush when they are being deceptive. That is until they get caught and that's an entirely different story. They rationalize it , etc. Yet, they lie because in the beginning of their sexual proclivity, they lied and it's a process that works for them and they enjoy it. They have no idea of the benefits that a genuine life can bring them. What is worse is that they are not interested in it because they do not get the 'rush' that lying gives them in sexual conquest.

A single guy contacted us. Nice enough note, said he read our profile, thought we had things in common... so I wrote back, let's exchange photos and chat. He replied asking if we always play as a couple? Here's the thing. We don't always play together, but I don't want a single guy who is looking for one on one with me and might be willing to have a threesome if that means he can eventually get me alone. I feel like it's almost rude/poor judgement of him to ask about one on one when our profile makes no mention of playing separately. But, then I think, at least he's being open and it never hurts to ask. I simply replied that we like to play together. Should I talk to him further or just drop it? Do you think it's poor protocol to ask about one on one before you've even met?

Okay, I was just curious...I haven't really seen one ad where a woman was wearing glasses. I'm not going to stop wearing glasses (contacts make me squeamish and Lasik is expensive) but does it turn men off? If anyone who does wear glasses, does it sometimes get in the way of spontaneity (because you have to take them off in the heat of the moment)?

I feel like this was blown out of proportion. I felt his post was condenscending, ans i didnt think my response was very rude...but i concede and do not wish to ruffle any feathers. I felt a way and replied as such. Same as he did. No harm, no foul.

No offence to anyone here but if this is a debate on Christianity, everyone needs to do allot of reading and study first. Posts seem most interested in pointing out modern historical arguments against biblical passages and the difficultes of living a sin free life (it is in fact impossible) which means the essence of Christianity is totally misunderstood. And this is of course the source of the attacks on the faith as people get personally offended by being made to feel guilty for their sinful acts. Guilt being a sin as well, a very destructive one that sows doubt in oneself and the divine. Well, best wishes in your studies for anyone who pursues a better understanding. Since this thread is largely negative and was asking a specific question, I also reposted to add that there is a positive side to Judaism and Christianity regarding sex. It is referenced in the context of marriage (keep in mind marriage was the norm throughout the biblical period) but the Bible does in fact command the love of spouses to one another--this includes a strong emphasis on sex and fulfilling each others' needs: physical desire, lusts, and fantasties. The Song of Solomon is layered like all bibical books and ultimately describes God in mystical form, but it places love making in a very powerful and beautiful place in the cosmos. Again I am not saying that wife swaping is acceptable biblicaly, but in Judaism men could marry multiple wives and gentile traditions are not addressed as the entire Bible is Judeo-centric text. I am not aware of addressing single sex life or group sex other than it is mentioned as a fact of life, as is prostitution, in the Hebrew Bible and condemnation of basic fornication by some prophets and Christian disciples. One last note regarded Jesus of Nazareth himself and his possible sex life. The tradition of Jesus being married was a Merovingian invention to promote the divine right of Frankish kings, nothing more. Is it possible Jesus was married as all of the Apostles were? Yes, but I would not bet on it. He also speaks of rare individals who devote their lives to service to God (some prophets, monks, medieval mystics, Isaac Newton even fits this) and Jesus is much more likely the chief example of those who have only passion for God. Note that this has also been used by the Medieval Church to require clergy to remain celibate, by others to promote homosexuality. Both are ridiculous as the Greek word used in the gospels means "eunuch" refering to a spiritual servent of God and the Chruch who does not pursue their own selfish desires. Well priests (most at least), homosexuals, and the heterosexual masses clearly do not come close to this lofty spiritual trait. As for me, I do my best to live an honest life and pursue the passions of my heart, but I am also very horny!

Was that ALL he asked in that email? Or was it among other questions and answers? Like others said, he probably figures it doesn't hurt to ask, although it sounds like might have been slightly tactless about it. Just tell him that you and your husband are interested in playing together and leave it at that. If he brings it up again or is trying to pressure you, then drop him like a stone. I agree with avoiding anyone who gives a creepy vibe, but it's also easy to misunderstand in emails. Some people don't type well, have poor grammar, or just don't realize they seem creepy. That is probably something that would come across over the phone though.