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We went on a Carnival cruise a few years ago. There was an area reserved for nude sunbathing on the upper deck. It wasn't used all that much, usually just by us, one or two other couples and a few of the dancers from the entertainment team. We got friendly with one couple in particular and spent a lot of time with them on the ship and the on-shore tours. After two or three days we all knew each other well enough to engage in some flirting and in the night club we exchanged partners for some mildly erotic dancing. We walked back to our staterooms together and when we got to our room we invited them in for a nightcap. We all had to sit on the bed. The flirting continued, eventually turning into some kissing and touching. We asked them if they were comfortable with what we were doing and the other wife responded by removing her dress! It wasn't long before all four of us were naked. We spent some time with our own partners and then swapped for a little soft swinging. We rounded things off by returning to our own partners for intercourse. Eventually they left to return to their own room. When we met them the following day we were concerned about how they would react to the previous evening's action but they told us immediately that they had enjoyed themselves. They had never done anything like it before but had talked about it and decided that if the opportunity arose on their vacation they would take it. We played with them every evening for the rest of the cruise and on the final two evenings we went all the way to full swap. It was one of the best vacations we have ever had but nothing like that has happened since.

Swinging really can't make up for a lack of sex in my opinion. It takes a lot of time and effort to find the right people and get schedules to match. We're active, we both play, we live in a swinger haven, and I haven't full-swapped in a year! (for various reasons). If I relied on swinging for my sex life I'd be screwed! I also find that when we go out and do swinger stuff it makes me really turned on. So you may end up going to clubs and then masturbating 5 times a day for the week after. Your wife should think about finding a Dr who can help resolve the pain she has, they may also be able to help her low libido. Here is a related thread with resources: https://www.swingersboard.com/forums/topic/45970-okay-sex-hurts-pelvic-floor-therapist/ I'd encourage you to improve things at home before looking elsewhere.