Hmm...Well, my very first threesome was 15 years ago. It was a FMF with my long term boyfriend at the time and my best friend. The three of us were very close friends. The threesome was totally unplanned and initiated by me. I had never given any thought to having a threesome before. The three of us had been out partying (we weren't trashed or anything) and had ended up back at my place. My BF and I were having sex in my room and my friend was getting ready for bed--she was staying over because we left her car at the bar. I remember I just suddenly looked at my BF and said "go tell N she can join us." Of course he did! I recall I had one moment of >.
Fast forward to present. I met a lovely couple from a swinger site, we did the usual. Exchanged a few e-mails, went out to dinner to size each other up and talk. Decided we had good chemistry and set a play date. It was awesome! Just some thoughts. I think it went so well for a few reasons:
1)If you're going to try to meet people through swinger sites, be clear about what you want in your profile. Be specific. If you're patient, you can find the right person/couple.
2)we sat down and talked before we hit the sheets. What are your boundaries/rules? What do you not like? What will you not do, ever? And then there was some stuff we agreed that we might do eventually, but not yet. strap ons, oh my! lol
3)Suggestion only--if you want to have a good FMF, make sure you don't have two passive women. That will make for a crappy FMF. Someone has to make the first move/be the aggressor. And generally the women are setting the pace.
Was I nervous? Hell , no We all know we're there for sex. There's no reason to be coy. I guess I'm a dive right in to the deep end kind of person, though. I'm like this in all aspects of my life.